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Conundrum.... Really struggling with what to do / morals

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Thatfeelsbetter · 23/10/2025 15:03

Option 1.

It's taken a while to secure a role. I work in sales/marketing/promotions and was finally offered a role (as second choice candidate after first candidate declined). The interview felt 'flat' to me and they seemed bored with me. I was surprised to be 2nd choice. Role is with a pretty big English charity company and is completely remote. Company has had a few issues in the past (some big issues) and reviews I have found online are not great, albeit there are some good reviews. They're 'ok' i suppose. There are good things about them.

They really desperately need someone in this role as the previous person has left and work is piling up. Due to start in two weeks when manager is back from leave. It wouldn't be a taxing job for me. Role is permanent.

Option 2
From left field, enter company two. I really like this organisation and they have a great reputation. Large national English company. Do a lot of fundraising in local areas. I was interviewed for another role with them, wasnt successful (it was a stretch junior manager role and I wasn't really expecting to be offered) but they passed my details to the promotions team who are recruiting for four positions. Was interviewed and offered role. 2.5k more than the first role. Fully remote role.

The option 2 role is not permanent but contract to June 2026. The recruiter said very likely it will be extended and possibly the people who are seconded elsewhere won't return as they're currently in a higher roles/different teams. But no guarantees. I feel 2nd role is more inline with my experience and role interest. Definitely preferred organisation.

My partner says not to be ridiculous, permanent always trumps, I'd be silly to even consider option 2. We are early 30's and will look to get a mortgage over the next year or so but need to save more money first. Probably a year or just less of savings to go before can apply for mortgage.

My sister says take option 2. I'd really been keen on this organisation in the past and they're competitive to get into. They have a really good reputation. She said once I'm in I could really shine/show what I could do and if I'm known, it's easier to apply for any other roles if the contract one doesn't extend. She also said companies don't show loyalty to employees if they need to downsize, save money, make staff redundant etc so don't worry about thinking from a moral point of view.

I don't know what to do. I also feel really bad if I was the second candidate to pull out of the option 1 organisation especially as I'm nearly at the commence stage. Really would feel like I've wasted their time.

Help!

OP posts:
Boredinthecity · 23/10/2025 15:07

option 2... The chances of you wanting to stay at option 1 past June 2026 are LOW. Life is short and hating where you work is awful.

AphroditesSeashell · 23/10/2025 15:15

Agree with PP - Option 2 every day of the week. If it was a 3 month temp role, I'd go with Option 1 but 7/8 months is a decent temp role and if you do well in the position, it sounds likely that you might get offered an extension.

More money - ✔
Better company - ✔
same working conditions - ✔
In-line with experience -✔
Term of role - ✖

4 out of 5 ✔= indicates a yes to me.

coronafiona · 23/10/2025 15:15

I’d take option 2 too. If you are happier there you will perform better and more likely to be taken on FT. I’d be wary of the charity sector at the moment though due to COL it must be very difficult.

MagpiePi · 23/10/2025 15:16

I would go for Option 2.

Even from the way you wrote about option 1 I could feel there was no enthusiasm for it!

It sounds like the only reason you would work for them is out of a feeling obliged because they called you up. It is not your fault or your problem that the previous person left and the work is piling up. You have also got to wonder why the original person left and then their first choice replacement turned them down.

You are more likely to work hard and do well if you are feeling enthusiastic about a job, and as you say, they feel like a better fit for you.

You can wait until after June 2026 to see if you do get made permanent and then start thinking about buying a house. You will be able to save more anyway if you are doing job 2.

BaronessBomburst · 23/10/2025 15:19

Option 2.
If you didn't get a permanent position option 1 will likely still be recruiting by the sounds of it.

Thatfeelsbetter · 23/10/2025 15:34

Thanks all. After re-reading I can see I've written from an emotional point of view more one-sided to option 2.

To make it more fair...company 2 isn't perfect of course. Better reputation however. I really don't want 'ego' to get in the way of wanting to work for a company because of reputation ... but obviously it helps.

Option 2 job would be much more varied and interesting but probably 1.5 to 2 x as busy daily. Many more employees. Probably no where near as much even keel / slow / downtime as option 1.

Option 1 has flexibility with start /finish times but option 2 is set hours. Both remote.

There is a part of me that wonders if option 1 was only offered to me as didn't have great candidates applying. I'll never know of course.

Partner says recruiters have the upper hand at the moment. Many more candidates than roles. I don't know if this is true ...

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MagpiePi · 23/10/2025 17:49

If recruiters have the upper hand at the moment then it has got to be a big positive that option 2 actively offered you the job, so they must think you are a good fit whereas you were only a back up plan for option 1. Plus option 2 told you that there was a good chance the contract would be extended which could be seen as they want you to stay on.

Thatfeelsbetter · 23/10/2025 18:38

MagpiePi · 23/10/2025 17:49

If recruiters have the upper hand at the moment then it has got to be a big positive that option 2 actively offered you the job, so they must think you are a good fit whereas you were only a back up plan for option 1. Plus option 2 told you that there was a good chance the contract would be extended which could be seen as they want you to stay on.

They did say they couldn't guarantee the job would be extended.. I suppose thats really playing on my mind. Jumping into a 'maybe' versus a solid 'permanent'....

OP posts:
MagpiePi · 24/10/2025 20:19

From your Op:

The recruiter said very likely it will be extended and possibly the people who are seconded elsewhere won't return as they're currently in a higher roles/different teams. But no guarantees. I feel 2nd role is more inline with my experience and role interest. Definitely preferred organisation.

‘very likely’ to be extended. And the last two sentences speak volumes.

By June next year you could be hating option1 and be thinking about looking for another job anyway.

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