Childcare with Granparents

[BethanyEllen99]

Back Story:
My mum offered to look after my son, 1 day a week so I could go back to work part time. he does 2 full days at nursery also.
We are basically having a bit of a fall out recently because they've bought a lodge and want to go on holiday in half terms because my older brother is still at high school. This is fine but she want me to use my holidays which I only get around 12 in a year. I personally don't think this is fair as if they go up for 2/3 in summer and 2 half terms during the year that's potentially 5 holidays, ill have to use for her to go on holiday. Am I being unreasonable because she helps me out so I can work a day with free childcare?

Of course you’re being unreasonable. If you use a childminder or nanny, they are entitled to choose to take their holidays when they want, so why would you expect your parents to do differently when they are offering you FREE childcare?

My kid’s grandparents pick her up a day a week after school (and before she was in school, had her for that whole day; in school holidays they still do this). They have a child who lives abroad and twice a year they go there for a whole month. They usually do this in school holidays. We have to work around it!

Grandparent here. I have posted before. I provided Free childcare to my daughter's two children-five days a week, 10 hours a day. Year roundHolidays and Summer. I travelled for two weeks every summer. My Daughter and husband took Time Off from Work during those two weeks. The result was that I never got any other rest from my duties. When I returned from a trip, it meant I was back to Childcare. I love my Grandchildren, but it was often exhausting.

Of course you're unreasonable. They can go on holiday whenever they want. You need a backup plan for these times.

Your OLDER brother is still in high school? So how old are you? You sound about 12. Very ungrateful, self absorbed and entitled.

I’ve had NO help with childcare from my parents or anybody else. I paid nurseries and childminders. Welcome to the real world.

You are being unreasonable, as your mum is entitled to still go on holiday. It’s why I paid for childcare, far easier but yes more costly.

Of course you are being unreasonable. Unless she is strong arming you into using her for childcare, how could you be anything other than unreasonable?

You don’t think it’s fair? Your parents shouldn’t be allowed to go on holiday because you think they HAVE to look after your DC?

Where are you if you only get 12 days a year annual leave?