Basically in my team at work, when I joined my now best friend wad really close with one of the guys in our team.
when i first started, i didnt really talk to him much, only when we were both with my friend at the same time, it was a bit like one of those we only spoke if she was there kinda thing.
However she went away on holiday for two weeks and me and this guy both just naturally started talking to each other a bit more and we realised actually we both have similar interests like the gym and the same shows so started talking a lot on teams
My friend then came back from holiday and told me she felt the vibe was weird between her and this guy since she came back, he is autistic so I said to her that he might need a bit of time to re adjust to her being back with and she agreed and I said just sit next to him one day and chat and it’ll be fine. She did that it was all okay.
but then the last week she has said he barely talks to her anymore and never messages her during the day, I asked if she had messaged him at all just to check in and she said she hadnt done. When i asked if she maybe should she said it wasnt up to her to message him and he should message first, I kinda said it might be he feels a bit awkward as well and is waiting for you to message and that i was sure everything was fine
Over the next few days I kinda left it as its for them to sort out, but she kept on messaging me asking if he had spoken to me during the day and how much and when i would say he had she would be like oh so he just inst mtalking to me. I did keep encouraging her to message him but she still didnt.
it got to the point where she started saying stuff liek, ‘i dont know why he’s speaking to you more than he is speaking to me’ or ‘he always distances himself whenever im in a good place with my bf’
I kind of hit my annoyance point and kinda said to her ‘it kinda sounds like your this bothered over this because you have a thing for him’
she immediately asked me to delete the message in case anyone saw it and said that that wasnt the case at all, and i did apologise for overstepping and saying something out of line. After this she called me and said again how weird it was they still werent talking and that she thinks he just replaces people in terms of how often he speaks to them and that she thinks he does it when she is in a good place with her bf again.
she then messaged the guy and the sorted it but i just felt a bit guilty that i had said the comment i did
It just felt like being back and school and having girls compete with how much a guy is talking to them, i think next time im not saying anything about the situation