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I am worried about the stress at work

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2021x · 08/10/2025 21:07

I am British but I live/work in NZ.

The organisation that I work at (less than 200 people) has been through a huge amount of organisational change in the last 12 months. 3x changes at CE level (there was a temporary one), and vacancies with senior leadership. In addition the Head of HR has changed 5 times in the times in the 3 years that I have been there.

I noticed symptoms of work related stress and reported this as a health and safety incident. I have experienced this before so knew to act sooner rather than later. I was fully prepared to be told that it was a personal failing i.e. I am not able to handle stress-which is what happened last time- but wanted to make sure it went on the Health and Safety incident register. I have had 2 rounds of EAP + extra and other supports.

Unfortunately the response was to put my boss on performance review for not managing my stress levels-which is incorrect. I had work related stress because of all the rapid organisational changes that weren't being managed by the organisation. I disagreed with their assessment that this was an HR complaint, and insisted that it was a health and safety incident and made sure there was a paper trail saved in our system, and I sent myself a copy of the email disagreeing with their assessment.

The result is now even more stress on an overburdened manager, and now she has a difficult situation at home with her family. She is now showing behavioural signs of work related stress. She is acting out of character in an aggressive way towards people outside of our team. Both of us pushed this up to the Board who have want to know more. Our EAP usage has increased for work related matters by 100% in the last 6 months.

I am worried she is going to experience a work-related mental health injury. I know she is on an anti-anxiety/depressant for a long period of time, but I also know she has never utilised any type of talking therapy. I don't know what else I can do, as I do not trust the leadership and HR after their response to my incident report.

Does anyone have any experience or advice?

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ApplesCrumbleButtons · 08/10/2025 21:27

I think the question here is whether your stress is resolved as that would surely then close the performance review.

Sprig1 · 08/10/2025 21:42

Why are you interfering with your bosses situation? Just concentrate on yourself.

2021x · 08/10/2025 22:20

Sprig1 · 08/10/2025 21:42

Why are you interfering with your bosses situation? Just concentrate on yourself.

Because

  1. I care about her and I don't want her to get injured.
  2. Her injury directly affects me and if I can avoid a situation becoming escalated then I would like to.
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2021x · 08/10/2025 22:22

ApplesCrumbleButtons · 08/10/2025 21:27

I think the question here is whether your stress is resolved as that would surely then close the performance review.

I would agree. I got the support and it should be closed. The organisation started an performance review.

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FKAT · 08/10/2025 22:35

There is almost certainly more going on in your line manager's situation than you are privy to. I think you need to keep out of it. I also think you need to find another job.

2021x · 08/10/2025 22:39

FKAT · 08/10/2025 22:35

There is almost certainly more going on in your line manager's situation than you are privy to. I think you need to keep out of it. I also think you need to find another job.

Of course, but its coming from the situation not from any personal failing of anyone.

The law says that the orgnaisation has to have manage hazards to reduce the risk of harm. They are not managing the harzard of organsiational change, which is a known pyschosocial hazard.

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