Work life and mum life

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I am really struggling with work and being a mum to my amazing 2 year old. I have a lot of responsibilities at work and am the only one that can do my role within the sector I work in. I went back to work part time 3 days a week when my little boy was 6 months old. I have been given progression within my role which I am grateful for but it has all got too much. I have no support around me apart from my partner who works full time. Do I give up my job and have some time out before taking up something which doesn’t hold so much responsibility? Just reaching out to see if anyone else is in the same situation xx

It depends a bit what you do. I took a step down when my kids were little for about eight years, then I started to slowly progress. To be honest my teens need a lot of lifts and things and it is almost harder when they go to school. But that’s just me and I don’t have a career I have chosen to follow as such.

I think you have to weigh up what matters to you, and most importantly, what can you afford.

What are you struggling with specifically? Is it the housework/chores or spending time with your child? It’s a tricky one, my career has taken off since having my DD and it is a juggling act but I am the main earner and made the decision to stick at it. My DH has had to pick up the slack. But we made the decision as a team and particularly before I had my daughter in terms of how we would manage.

I'm part time and I don't have a lot of responsibility, I don't feel like I am as good as I could be once my toddler is in school, I also have a seven year old.
it stresses me out. Praying for a big win lol so I can leave.

Yes I am stressed. Have a one and three year old, and a full on job. I’m very slightly part time, but in reality have to work longer than full time hours. Feel like my boss is constantly disappointed in me, which I hate. And everything is constantly juggled, things drop. I’m trying to think if there’s a way I can change things, change job maybe. But I feel too exhausted to try to get a new one, and then spend months trying to prove myself, and he even more tired 😂

Not sure what the answer is. I’m sure there’s a lot of us in the same boat

Extremely stressed here too. 3 children; 7, 3 and 1. I work compressed full time hours over 4 days, husband works 5 day with a week away each month. Both our jobs are within Operations. Intense and stressful. It never felt this intense until our third came along so we’re looking at options for someone to take a step back. Even something fully remote would make the world of difference, we have childcare covered through nursery and wrap around care but someone needs to be at home more to take pressure off in the evenings

What is it that is becoming too much? Are there things that you can do to help at home eg cleaner, Nanny, food delivery etc?

I would also say, I think three days is very difficult in a demanding job. I did this coming back from mat leave with annual leave, and I found it much tougher. Like you aren’t in the office enough to get enough done, and things get missed on two days off. I found four days easier, actually I’d love to work four days now, but it wasn’t approved. It also allowed flexibility (and more pay!) but eg I could take a couple hours off to go see a nursery picnic or play and make it up in the evening. Whereas I felt like I had so much to do at three days, and like people were a bit resentful at work, so I wouldn’t have dared.