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Should I tell boss we are ttc?

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francesrivis · 03/06/2008 09:35

Hi, I am currently doing maternity cover for my line manager and have just found out she won't be coming back to work. I am waiting to hear whether I will automatically be offered the job or whether it will be advertised, in which case I would like to apply for it. My worry is that we are currently ttc no. 2 and I don't know whether to tell my boss this or not. I'm worried that if I do say something this will influence their decision as to whether to offer me the job, so from this point of view suppose I should keep quiet. However, I have a good relationship with my boss and don't like the idea of keeping quiet and then if/when I do get pg springing the surprise on him. The organisation has been through a pretty turbulent time recently and I just feel really guilty about possibly adding to it by going on maternity leave fairly shortly after starting the job. I know one solution would be to put off TTC until it's sorted, but I really don't want to - we've waited a good while for one reason and another, and I'm getting on in years!

Sorry this is long - hope it makes sense, any advice gratefully received.

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Purlease · 03/06/2008 09:43

I would keep it quiet. You don't know how long it will take you to conceive. Also I wouldn't put off TTC. I did this as I was looking for a new job - decided to go for it when nothing suitable came up. Got pregnant - miscarried after 8 weeks and now regret not trying sooner as gap between 1st and 2nd (if we are lucky) continues to increase. Even if you get pregnant quite quickly you could still be in job for a year if you work quite close to the due date.

AtheneNoctua · 03/06/2008 09:51

Not if you want the job. It will probably influence his decision -- even if he is otherwise a nice guy. And, don't feel bad about going on maternity leave. It is your right... and one of the very few advantages you have as a woman in the workplace.

If you are afraid you will look dishonest, then just tell them it wan't planned. "Oh shit, will you look at that, I'm 4 months pregnant. How did that happen then?"

EffiePerine · 03/06/2008 09:53

No - you don't know how long it will take for a start! It isn't their business what you do in your private life. When and if you are pg you can let him know then

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