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Should I go to hr

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Wildwelshcob92 · 15/09/2025 20:31

Iv been in quite a physical job and when I found out I was pregnant my jobs were reduced then I was asked to help in the office when I was 5months pregnant as my body was hurting quite a bit. So I did I wasn’t given any training just a quick go through of things and then a book with sops that were slightly outdated
Iv been getting on with things best I can with minimal staff in. Today I heard the office manager slagging me off to another colleague saying Iv done no work I’d left things not done ect and that Iv been complaining of my pregnancy symptoms and I should be grateful I’m pregnant. In context this person has fertility issues and is having medical tests at the moment via private health care.
i have tried my absolute hardest and agreed to anything iv been asked. If im unsure iv asked but iv had no negative feedback from anyone so iv carried on . I dont get a set jobs list in the morning i just crack on and no one has mentioned anything. I dont feel iv complained about my pregnancy as im aware of her fertility issues but i have made comments like lack of sleep and lots of appointments ect
the slagging of today felt like a punch in the stomach and it was done in an open room where anyone could have heard i told a friend what i heard and walked off right past them and my friend advised id heard everything. The colleague followed me and aplogised id heard this and offered to take me upstairs as I was crying my eyes out and sit in the office to calm down .. they also said the office manager wanted to apologise to me but I said no mainly as I was so shocked and so upset. I went home early as I couldn’t stop crying and Iv actually just cried all night and have hardly eaten because of it. My partner wants me to go to HR about this after speaking to the office managers boss this week. She is well known for slagging people off and I have heard her moan about some who’s on long term sick due to mental health. Iv also been told she might have just had a meltdown over this today because she’s so stressed over her work load but she won’t let anyone help with it

sorry for the long winded post but I don’t know if I should take this further or not

OP posts:
Squiggles23 · 16/09/2025 09:52

If I were you OP I would speak to HR so it’s on record but not take it further at this point,

The person sounds nasty but I’m not sure there’s much point taking a one off comment further. Unless they are your manager? In which case they shouldn’t be speaking like that.

I would ask your manager for specific feedback on the new role so you know how you are getting on.

Tigger18 · 05/12/2025 05:39

I'd only go to HR if you're clear about what you want them to do, they're not just there to listen to people who are upset, they will want to know what you want to happen and if it's nothing or I don't know what's the point 🤷‍♀️

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