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Woundupatwork · 02/09/2025 21:27

Changed my name for this.

I’m not young by any stretch of the imagination (mid-50s) but today I felt like I was treated like a junior who knows nothing.
I’ll try to keep it short.

I’ve been in my job 9 months. I am on a low grade because I moved from HE to NHS. I’m not a qualified clinician. In HE I worked in student support, had a lot of experience and was respected for my knowledge, experience and working practices.

Today, in a (hybrid) team meeting, where I was online, a colleague brought up an issue about a patient being a university student. I raised a virtual hand to offer some information but another colleague in the room started to answer, so I stayed quiet.

My colleague’s answer was purely based on her experience this year of managing her DC’s entry to university.
Of course this is helpful up to a point, but she was extrapolating what happened at this one university to what happens in general.

In fact some of what she was saying was downright wrong.

I tried a number of times to join in but she would not give way. So the questioner was left with incorrect answers.

I felt quite humiliated and that my genuine knowledge (it was exactly the sort of query I dealt with in my old job) was downplayed.

I suppose my question is (as well as just wanting a moan), should I let the colleague requiring the information know that what she’s been told is wrong and there’s actually a lot more involved?

(I know it sounds trivial. I’m feeling really wound up about it though).

OP posts:
Ahsheeit · 03/09/2025 04:14

Type in the chat box if you're not given room to speak.

numana · 03/09/2025 05:18

Online calls are tricky.

in particular if someone is already detected as speaking, it will often prioritise them and mute others audio.

Marchitectmummy · 03/09/2025 05:21

You sound like you may be sensitive. Teams calls are dog eat dog on terms of inputting of they aren't chaired correctly.

As above wrote in the chat if you can't verbalize what you want to.

spoonbillstretford · 03/09/2025 05:22

Yes it can be tricky. It sounds like your colleague has poor skills on such calls, not able to give others a chance to speak.

If it were me, I'd type my comment in the chat box and say I'd had my hand up for several minutes, then would have a word with her afterwards.

Woundupatwork · 03/09/2025 05:48

Yes I should have used the chat box- good point. I probably am a bit sensitive, for various reasons. I can remind myself that she (probably!) wasn’t deliberately ignoring me.

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Marchitectmummy · 03/09/2025 05:50

Woundupatwork · 03/09/2025 05:48

Yes I should have used the chat box- good point. I probably am a bit sensitive, for various reasons. I can remind myself that she (probably!) wasn’t deliberately ignoring me.

It's natural to feel a bit like that if you've changed industry but push on, find a way to input and people will start to listen more and more.

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