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How do I stay engaged at work in 2025?

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boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:03

I love my career, its been my passion for 30+ years. I have spent many years since graduating back in further education while I work full-time to keep up with advances in my field. I love talking to school kids about what I do and it has a real-world impact on people. However, in the five years since Covid I have been left feeling really disconnected.

Before the pandemic I travelled a lot, five or more major overseas trips a year wasn't unusual. I met collegues face-to-face and presented at conferences around the world. While I dont really enjoy being away from home, I loved the energy of meetings, working on something tangible and seeing ideas being generated.

I chaired a committee within my professional body, and I loved meeting academics, research students and others.

None of this exists any more. The seminars have turned into Webinars and dull, faceless Teams calls. I now push virtual post-its around a Slack board, tick boxes in MS Project and less and less videos are turned on.

I no longer have to renew my CPD hours every two years, its been moved to a five year model so there is less pressure to keep things interesting.

I am well aware of the overall benefits to the flexible, working from home model.

However, I am sick to death of books, podcasts and a sandwich for one at lunch time. My colleagues are not that far away but are rarely talked into meeting up. A lot of lockdown dogs need walked at lunchtime 😉 Its a struggle to organise the Christmas night out. I even miss shopping for new work clothes and shoes. I now have quite a stack on Vinted.

What do I do to stay engaged? My job is well paid, the work itself is interesting and I am busy. It just seems that I jump from one online call to the next, to a webinar (yawn), to sitting in silence while I work from the spare room/office.

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Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:04

Bloody hell this sounds shit and boring. What a way for your career to have gone after decades of being interested and enjoying.

ok so time to take a risk (if you can afford it). Jump ship. A new challenge

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:06

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:04

Bloody hell this sounds shit and boring. What a way for your career to have gone after decades of being interested and enjoying.

ok so time to take a risk (if you can afford it). Jump ship. A new challenge

I'd love to, but I am the main breadwinner and funding 2 DCs at uni. I have looked to move companies but the roles are still remote with no real physical offices.

Maybe I just have to suck this up until the kids are through Uni?

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Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:08

Looks like it 😞

although if you express this to your line manager and you’re valued by them… surely there could be room for some improvements?

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:10

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:08

Looks like it 😞

although if you express this to your line manager and you’re valued by them… surely there could be room for some improvements?

I will have the chat. Our budgets for travel etc were cut a few years ago and its never been put back. We cant seem to get travel approval when the events I wish to attend have the handy 'online' option.

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Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:15

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:10

I will have the chat. Our budgets for travel etc were cut a few years ago and its never been put back. We cant seem to get travel approval when the events I wish to attend have the handy 'online' option.

Presumably you have already spoken with them though ?

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:15

Your company sounds like very very tight margins
Id be looking for a different company

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 28/08/2025 15:17

Can you go to work in a fun coworking space and make friends there

Mammamiaskopelo · 28/08/2025 15:18

So you work from home full time? Can you keep looking until you find one with an office, but more social interaction. Or find a hobby outside work, join some clubs maybe. As someone mentioned a co working space a couple of days per week? Self fun some training/updates.

I worked from home after the pandemic full time; it was very depressing. I missed the social aspect and getting out of the house.

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:19

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:15

Your company sounds like very very tight margins
Id be looking for a different company

We do have tight margins and I have said to them in the past. I might have a good look to see what's coming up from a physical conference / training option that would benefit me.

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Cazzovuoi · 28/08/2025 15:22

I know what you mean. I have just given up a very concrete, stable but fully remote job in favour of looking for a hybrid option. I have an interview next week for a role that I really want that is flexi-hybrid.

I am sick of living where I work and working where I live. I never want to go back to full time office work and a daily commute so hybrid is the best of both worlds IMO.

I know I am not being helpful because you've already said you can't move jobs but it was the only solution for me.

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:23

I work from home, full time and live rurally. Tthere is no option of a co-working space but also I cannot work from a cafe or similar due to privacy issues and data protection.

Its a bit of a pickle!

I have joined a gym, film club and pub quiz team and I go ask much as I can.

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boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:25

Cazzovuoi · 28/08/2025 15:22

I know what you mean. I have just given up a very concrete, stable but fully remote job in favour of looking for a hybrid option. I have an interview next week for a role that I really want that is flexi-hybrid.

I am sick of living where I work and working where I live. I never want to go back to full time office work and a daily commute so hybrid is the best of both worlds IMO.

I know I am not being helpful because you've already said you can't move jobs but it was the only solution for me.

I have so much sympathy for this and I know I am very lucky that I have space at home to work. I can see my bedroom through my office window and I know exactly when the neighbours put their bins out every week 😂

Perhaps this is the new norm and I just need to move with the times!

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Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:25

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:23

I work from home, full time and live rurally. Tthere is no option of a co-working space but also I cannot work from a cafe or similar due to privacy issues and data protection.

Its a bit of a pickle!

I have joined a gym, film club and pub quiz team and I go ask much as I can.

What was your commute like pre covid or did you wfh pre Covid too?

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:29

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:25

What was your commute like pre covid or did you wfh pre Covid too?

20 - 25 minutes drive, I didnt work one day from home before March 2020.

I was sent home with an office chair and two big monitors never to return full time.

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Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:31

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:29

20 - 25 minutes drive, I didnt work one day from home before March 2020.

I was sent home with an office chair and two big monitors never to return full time.

And now the office has closed?

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:32

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:31

And now the office has closed?

Its gone from many floors, desks and meeting rooms to a small working space of around 30 hot desks.

I can be the only person there at times.

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Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:34

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 15:32

Its gone from many floors, desks and meeting rooms to a small working space of around 30 hot desks.

I can be the only person there at times.

But can you not arrange with your colleagues, given you’ve worked there years, to have days where you coincide a regular day (s) in office and then go out for lunch?

Thefuture2025 · 28/08/2025 15:38

Yuk!! Im new to wfh and waiting to adapt, however I'm not sure it will be healthy for me to adapt. Its not natural. It might be convenient but I'm sure it's no good for me long term. I have little to no interaction all day and small tasks seem over complicated as they are taught at a distance. It is hard to engage. Its horrible to think my colleagues will never know me. I have no stories to tell dh at the end of the day. I look like shit as I don't need to do hair, make-up and clothes which I actually enjoy. I go from my desk to house slave, putting a wash on etc. Im rural too and am looking forward to no winter commute, but not sure I can last past spring.

Mammamiaskopelo · 28/08/2025 16:06

You have my sympathy. The only option seems to be to be change jobs; keep looking.

Hybrid works perfectly for me. I wouldn’t like to commute everyday nor work from home full time either

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 16:23

Brothisbest · 28/08/2025 15:34

But can you not arrange with your colleagues, given you’ve worked there years, to have days where you coincide a regular day (s) in office and then go out for lunch?

We did for a while, then it has slowly drifted to one lunch a month with not the best attendance.

I think this is probably all on me. I think I am a dinosaur who just needs to adapt to the times and learn to live with WFH. I am in a very spcialist role and there is only one of me in the company, so its hard to find a colleague that I can compare myself to. I love the work, just doing it in silence all day long is exhausting.

I read so many articles online giving all the benefits of flexible working and no commuting, which are true to an extent. However I dont have kids who need looking after or picking up, you can only run around with the hoover so many times or put a wash on. The silence at home feels massive some days.

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Thattime · 28/08/2025 18:14

boxoftoads · 28/08/2025 16:23

We did for a while, then it has slowly drifted to one lunch a month with not the best attendance.

I think this is probably all on me. I think I am a dinosaur who just needs to adapt to the times and learn to live with WFH. I am in a very spcialist role and there is only one of me in the company, so its hard to find a colleague that I can compare myself to. I love the work, just doing it in silence all day long is exhausting.

I read so many articles online giving all the benefits of flexible working and no commuting, which are true to an extent. However I dont have kids who need looking after or picking up, you can only run around with the hoover so many times or put a wash on. The silence at home feels massive some days.

I could never ever wfh
and lots of much younger colleagues feel the same
it’s not a “get with the times”
what you describe sounds, boring, lonely and unfulfilling.

It’s been going on for years though and you seem rather passive about it.

Talk to management and pursue it.
and you are a mere 20 mins from what sounds like a large office, so can’t be that rural! Why don’t you instigate weekly get togethers with colleagues in the office and a lunch.? Are they also now WFH fully? Probably feeling same way as/ you

your company sounds very frugal or… struggling

either way, I’d be looking elsewhere

Thefuture2025 · 29/08/2025 06:46

it’s not a “get with the times”

Yes, this is what I started to think pretty quickly. I don't want to adapt. I don't want meetings with my colleagues in their pjs, or sitting on their sofa, or even sometimes with family members around. No doubt some people have really made this arrangement work for them, but it doesn't ring right for me.

SoScarletItWas · 29/08/2025 06:57

Oh I could have written this OP! Right down to chairing a related professional body which shifted all meetings to online and events dwindled.

I completely feel the loss of the networking, development and, yes, social side of things.

I don’t think changing jobs is necessarily the answer because so many sectors have gone the same way.

As have expectations - I have tried to put on two events which pre-Covid were well attended in person. Free networking events with a volunteer industry specialist speaker. Very low interest either because their employers wouldn’t pay for the travel or because people just cannot be ARSED to do things in person any more.

I wish I knew the answer because I feel exactly the same way. What you describe was a huge source of energy, fun and vibrancy for me in my profession and it’s just …gone.

HedwigIsMySpiritAnimal · 29/08/2025 07:02

I hear you! Fucking hate wfh and genuinely don’t understand the love for it - and don’t get me started on Teams meetings, soooooo dull!

I go into the office as often as I can even when I’m the only one in 😄

Thefuture2025 · 29/08/2025 07:17

We don't really have an office, just a hot desking space for use on certain days that nobody really bothers with, plus I don't know my colleagues so there's no real motivation to go in.