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Having to work with 2 partners of ex-H

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Whatreallynoway · 26/08/2025 18:49

Due to a restructure at work I am about to start working with a woman who had an affair with my EX-H for many years while we were married, and his current partner (this is a different person) I am concerned about how they will treat me and how this may make things difficult for me at work. These 2 apparently hate each other and I do not want to get dragged into it. I am very concerned about my ex controlling things behind the scenes with his current partner; he is very manipulative. I would like some advice about what HR can do to protect me and what I should be asking them to put in place. Getting another job is not an option at the moment as I have just in the last 2 weeks returned to work after a long illness. I also do not see why I should have to find another job as I love what I do and this situation is nothing to do with me. I would really appreciate some advice as I do not know where to start and I am dreading it!

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Mrsttcno1 · 26/08/2025 19:26

As nothing has happened (yet) there really isn’t much HR can do, unless you feel so uncomfortable that you want to ask for redeployment, there may be a role elsewhere for you.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 26/08/2025 19:32

Is your LM aware of the situation?

beelegal · 26/08/2025 19:57

Nothing to do with HR, sorry, nothing has happened in the workplace.

MrsPinkCock · 27/08/2025 09:09

That’s quite the incestuous workplace, isn’t it!

But right now, you’re talking in theory - nothing has actually happened. Obviously if it does, you could well have grounds for a complaint.

Is your new manager aware of the history?

CosyNavyLeader · 27/08/2025 09:19

Walk in there, head held high.

He is nothing to do with you anymore. If they try drag you into it, make sure they are well aware that you are not interested, and he is not a figure of any importance to your life.

Then sit back and watch them squabble and be reminded why you escaped any life that involves him!

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