I work in a senior position in compliance and have purposely chosen not to run a team as an enjoy the substantive work more than people management.
Unfortunately this meant that about 2 years ago I got a terrible new manager as I did not want to manage. A role then came up at my company doing the same thing just in a different part of the business working for someone I really like and respect, that manager was very keen to have me and I’m set to move.
Problem is my outgoing manager is clearly disappointed and making things difficult, by trying to set the terms of when and how I move, in particular saying I must keep some of my current accounts and take them with me.
I’ve tried to stay out of the politics of it and say - that’s a conversation for you to have with ‘new manager’. But should I just say “no” firmly.
Outgoing matter has said I should be flattered and that the reason I have to stay on the accounts is because I’m so valued. But I just want out from under them completely and a fresh start. They are a rude and abrasive, plus (even though they are more senior in years and position) they appear to simply not be up to the role and rely on me for anything technical or difficult generally, and on their accounts. This is exhausting and infuriating. I’m happy to do this for peers or junior colleagues but feel they should know how to do their job and not just take credit for my work - it also diverts me from my own work which I am under considerable pressure to do. Other colleagues will also just bypass them and treat me as the manager as they are very difficult to deal with. I feel like I’m doing two jobs.
I would be really grateful for any advice on how to get away! I’ve lost so much confidence in the last two years working for them.