No witnesses threatening to hit someone

[Shitwithsugar]

A woman who is in a senior position had a disagreement with another staff member of the same level.
Today the first lady was ranting and telling me that she was going to get her hubby to hit the other staff member.
It's a small company and we don't have a HR team.
The argument was because the first lady was caught out lying and lost the company money.
There were only the two of us in the office.
If I tell the second person the first will know it was me.
I'm only part time and don't want to get involved.

I'm only part time and don't want to get involved.

What is it you want from the thread if you're not going to get involved?

And what do your working hours have to do with whether you get involved or not?

So don't get involved.

Although you posted this thread, so....

Do I let the second person know what the first person said.

What I wanted from this thread is a bit of empathy but typical MN none is forthcoming.

Wow, it took you five minutes to blow up at people for not giving you whatever answer it was that you wanted, when they gave you an answer - you said that you didn't want to get involved, so you do not get involved. Was that not the correct answer? What answer would you like instead? Seriously?

Don't tell the other staff member, it will just escalate the argument. Tell the manager of the threatened staff member that a threat has been made against him/her. Say that you think it's probably all bluster but you're letting someone know just in case. Also that you don't want either of the parties involved to know that you have spoken to the manager.

This is good advice to refer it higher up, and what I'd suggest you do.

Also, make a private written note of what happened and what was said, with the date, and keep it somewhere safe in case it's needed if things escalate.

What grown arse woman threatens to get her husband to hit someone. This sounds a bit unlikely to me.

Leave them to it, probably an empty threat anyway, just venting.

What did you say to the woman at the time? Hopefully you pulled her up on her threat - it's totally unacceptable, not to mention illegal. Maybe she was just venting or maybe she really meant it - the only way to find out is to challenge her. And following that you would know if it was something to report to management or not.

It's definitely the mentality of "my dad's harder than your dad and he's going to beat you up after school at the park" isn't it? Sadly I have come across that in grown adults of a certain intelligence level.

I said to her that she could be sacked.

Good for you - how did she react?

@Arlanymor carried on ranting about other stuff.
This is the first time I've seen this side of her.

You cannot prove it, she can simply deny she said it, its bluster, forget and move on, the other option is an even more toxic environment.

Do I let the second person know what the first person said.

Not if you don't want to get involved, no.

If you change your mind and do want to get involved, then report the conversation to the relevant person.

Letting the second person know what the first one said will be seen as stirring the shit.