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Settlement - think I lowballed myself

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Barracudadooda · 12/08/2025 15:24

I'm going to make this sound like I'm being greedy, and I'm really not, but I've never been through this process before and I just don't know what is reasonable.

Long story short, I left my employer for a much better, higher-paid job. However, before leaving I felt discriminated against following my maternity leave.

It had only really become clear to me once I'd left, so I raised a grievance with them. I went through the process, wasn't impressed with how they conducted the investigation, and decided to go through ACAS early conciliation.

In all honesty, I knew what had happened was wrong and they had treated me differently due to maternity leave...but I didn't have any definitive proof. When looking at it holistically you could argue on the balance of probability, but there was nothing there that acted as irrefutable evidence. I'd concluded that if it went to tribunal, I probably wouldn't win (due to my lack of evidence).

The firm said they wouldn't be accepting any liability as had found no evidence of wrongdoing, but would be open to resolving this informally with me.

I felt awkward, I hadn't mentioned a monetary figure yet. I wasn't remotely interested in negotiating with them or having any sort of back and forth, so I put forward a figure I felt was reasonable. It was a pretty modest sum (£6k), because ultimately I couldn't claim any financial loss due to voluntarily leaving for a higher paid job, and I couldn't demonstrate serious "injury to feeling".

Did I sell myself short? I was basically judging it on what I'd expect to get if I did go to tribunal...but they really screwed me over there and I guess I'm kind of thinking, they should pay out?!

Anyone help me feel better? Think I'm just a bit overwhelmed by it all.

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PhilippaGeorgiou · 12/08/2025 16:29

With respect, regardless of what happened and how you feel about it, you had no evidence and you didn't raise a complaint until after you left the company. How far do you think that would have gone in a tribunal? Realistically, based on what you have said, "what you'd expect to get if you did go to tribunal" is zero. Since you got more than that, then I would suggest you give it no more thought. If you'd asked for more you might have got it. You might have got less than what you got too if they had haggled. Life is too short to worry about what you can't change.

DarkForces · 12/08/2025 16:32

There is nowhere near enough information here to judge if £6k was reasonable to suggest but if in doubt seek and pay for proper legal advice. Mn is not a substitute

beelegal · 12/08/2025 16:35

The fact you left voluntarily for a better-paid role meant you couldn’t claim loss of earnings, which is often the largest part of compensation.

Let sleeping dogs lie. Move on.

HermioneWeasley · 12/08/2025 16:36

Based on what youve said I’d say you did well to get a £6k tax free lump sum with relatively little hassle

Jk987 · 12/08/2025 16:36

I’d also drop it now. You’ve got a better job which must be satisfying- announce it on LinkedIn and move on! You might burn bridges if you fight unnecessarily.

Barracudadooda · 12/08/2025 16:41

Thank you for those responses. I think I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed with it all. I suggested what I thought was reasonable so I don't know why I'm going back and forth in my head now. I think it's because they accepted it, and I wasn't expecting them to, which then made me think they probably had a higher figure in mind.

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NellieJean · 12/08/2025 16:46

It sounds about right to make you go away to be honest. Even where employers know they will almost certainly win at tribunal it’s worth this sort of amount to save the admin/management time/distraction that defending a case brings.

Lafufufu · 12/08/2025 16:49

Maybe you could have got more but so what

You got a very nice holiday for your family and a higher paid job.

Best revenge is a life well lived

NewsdeskJC · 12/08/2025 17:01

I would say you did the right thing, did your research and made your offer based on that. £6k was probably a sweet spot. Enough for you to have something to show, not too much for them to get het up and defensive about.
Put it all firmly behind you.

MrsBungle · 12/08/2025 17:05

Did you have a settlement agreement? You therefore should have had legal advice. Didn’t they advise you?

DarkForces · 12/08/2025 17:07

You need legal advice asap. A clock is often ticking on a claim and it unclear if you would have grounds to reopen negotiations. Either let it go or pursue it properly

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