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Mid Life Work Crisis

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dobbydotdot · 08/08/2025 14:34

Just to say I have NC for this thread, just in case. Sorry this is going to be a long one. I think I'm stuck, work wise and I don't know what to do next. Can any of you lovely people give me any ideas about what moves I could make?

I'm 45, I've been in my role as a software business analyst with this company for about 4 years. I've come from a customer service background. I was generally enjoying the BA work, and the company are pretty decent people. However due to the business restructuring, and cutting costs and roles, recently (in the last 8 months) my role has changed substantially, from business analyst to more of an account management/sales role. I'm now tasked with upselling add ons and upgrades to our services, and increasing client spend, on top of the stuff I would normally expect to be doing as a business analyst.

I don't really enjoy sales or account management, I worked quite hard to move out of that area of work earlier on in my career. As a result I'm looking around for another job. But absolutely nothing out there is sparking my enthusiasm at the moment. There are lots of biz analyst type roles out there, although everything on LinkedIn has about 100 applicants for it at the moment. Most of these roles require a level of technical knowledge I don't really have. Or experience with specific bits of software, which I also don't have, and I'm not sure I could realistically train for (paid for training is not in my budget at the moment). I've been applying for jobs on and off since January, when these changes came in, and I've not even bagged an interview. I've also talked to a recruiter I've worked with before, and he had nothing for me either. I've never had a problem applying for jobs in my career, but I'm getting nowhere now.

On top of all that I currently work fully from home, and due to my longevity with the company I have a lot of flexibility afforded to me, which is a godsend since I have school age kids. I'm also paid pretty well, although I've only had one pay review in my time here, and I'm not expecting one this year due to the aforementioned cost cutting.

I've definitely lost the love for my work, but I really don't know what I want to do with my life. Part of me thinks, sit tight, accept where you are, enjoy the flexibility and the reasonable pay, and be grateful to have a job. But the other part of me is finding the sales work soul destroying and that's obviously getting to me. I'm also worried they're going to bring in sales targets and that is something I absolutely never signed up for.

Like I said I just feel stuck, and fed up, and I'm worried the longer I stay in this role, the harder it will be to move to a non sales type role again. Does anyone have any advice?

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Kitkatkaboodle · 09/08/2025 14:48

The job market is often slow in the summer as managers and HR teams take off on holiday.

Companies with a niche s/w requirement may be more flexible about experience of offer training so if you know the s/w is an unusual one, then apply anyway.

Are you sure your CV is as good as it can be? Maybe ask a few people in your network could take a look and advise. Tell them to be brutally honest!

Amongst your redundant colleagues - what kind of jobs have they moved on to? Any chance their employers are hiring?

Finally - is it politically possible to talk o your manager about your feelings? You’re in a job you didn’t ask for, grateful to be employed but wondering how to stay motivated and tackle tasks you don’t enjoy as much as your old job. Manager may be able to help?

dobbydotdot · 11/08/2025 12:19

Thank you for this, all good advice, and an excellent point about the summer hiring slump thing. I'm going to try and have a chat with my manager, I actually asked to move into this team as I could see it was likely to be less impacted by redundancies, but I didn't anticipate the way the role changed into the sales/business development role it has become. Worryingly it's becoming clear I'm not doing some aspects of the job particularly well which is perhaps not surprising, but adds to the generally negative feeling I have about the whole thing.

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