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Can I discuss my happiness with salary increase without sounding crass?

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SecretAnon1 · 03/08/2025 11:30

I haven't been able to discuss this with anyone other than DH as I don't want to come across as gloating or insensitive. So I thought I'd share on here as I'm absolutely bursting with joy and I NEED to get my feelings off my chest.

For years now, DH and I have always struggled financially. We have both worked ourselves to the bone to survive however, as we all know, effort doesn't always equal reward when it comes to salaries.

I decided to take the leap and retrain. This involved studying while working part-time over the last few years and to achieve this, we had to take a massive pay cut as a household.

The struggle has been absolutely brutal and I've questioned my decision more than once when it all got too much too handle.

It's finally all payed off and I've just been offered an amazing opportunity. I need to keep pinching myself as I genuinely can't believe it's all real.

My new salary will give me £2k per month spare AFTER tax and bills have been paid! I feel like I'm living in a dream.

We do have some debts to pay off that we wracked up during our struggles however these should be cleared in the next year. After that we will finally be able to save for a mortgage. I never thought I'd see the day. And every time I think about it I can feel a lump in my throat. No more living pay check to pay check. This has lifted an unbelievable weight from my shoulders and mind.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading.

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AndofGreenGables · 03/08/2025 11:33

Well done you OP!

Ihatemondays1962 · 03/08/2025 11:36

Well done, what have you retrained as?

Boxfreshrussell · 03/08/2025 11:36

Amazing. Well done OP, all that graft has paid off. I hope you enjoy your new role and enjoy the fact that your future is more secure financially. Remember to save!

tomorrowchild · 03/08/2025 11:36

Well done! You’ve worked hard to achieve it and I’m sure you will really appreciate the extra income after struggling for so long!

Charabanc · 03/08/2025 11:38

Bloody well done to you OP!! Your hard work and persistence has paid off, and you deserve to give yourself a bottle of fizz a pat on the back 👏

AnSolas · 03/08/2025 11:38

🌻
Well done you!!

DisplayPurposesOnly · 03/08/2025 11:39

I'm more impressed with your retraining and sacrifice to get there - fabulous effort! And enjoy the rewards, well done 👏

beelegal · 03/08/2025 11:39

Congratulations! So nice to hear great news.

SecretAnon1 · 03/08/2025 11:39

Thank you for the support 🙏 ❤️

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ZenNudist · 03/08/2025 11:39

Well done you. Absolutely great to share it here because you really can't say anything IRL. Be careful about accidentally showing off, it's so easy to be insensitive but having known what it us to struggle you are probably already naturally tactful.

CuriousKangaroo · 03/08/2025 11:39

It’s not crass and you are not boasting. You have worked so hard and it has worked out. You should be immensely proud of yourself, OP. Really well done.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 03/08/2025 11:40

Discuss away, OP 😊 huge congratulations and well done to you … lovely news for you and your family x

Greeniscalming · 03/08/2025 11:42

That is such a nice thing to read. Well done. You deserve every extra penny!

Gardendiary · 03/08/2025 11:42

Well done op, that is brilliant. I think you are wise though, to discuss this just with dh and online. Money can be a very touchy subject irl.

Parata · 03/08/2025 11:46

Congratulations! It’s all your hard times paying off! Remember that and enjoy it! It sounds like you deserve it after the hard work you’ve put in. Boast away here all you want!

Charabanc · 03/08/2025 11:48

Gardendiary · 03/08/2025 11:42

Well done op, that is brilliant. I think you are wise though, to discuss this just with dh and online. Money can be a very touchy subject irl.

Indeed, especially when people only see the end result, and don't understand the hard work and worry it took to get there.

UtterlyButterly2048 · 03/08/2025 11:48

Excellent work op! I’m so pleased for you, your hard work has paid off and now you can enjoy your rewards. Good for you xx

Gerwurtztraminer · 03/08/2025 11:49

Congratualtions OP, it's not boasting at all, you've earned it the hard way as retraining isn't easy, and it must be an immense relief to know you have that you & DH won't be scrimping forever.
You're obviously really determined and applying that attitude to paying off the debt will mean you'll be saving for the mortgage in no time.

Best of luck with the new job!

pickywatermelon · 03/08/2025 11:50

Well done! 👍

dizzydizzydizzy · 03/08/2025 11:50

This is so good to hear. Congratulations!

If you're under 40, start a LISA.

YeOldy · 03/08/2025 11:53

That’s a lovely post. Well done OP.

Mildmanneredmum · 03/08/2025 11:55

Congratulations! so well done. I did the same - as you say, very hard whilst it's going on, but the reward comes....

KPPlumbing · 03/08/2025 11:56

Well done! 🙌

SecretAnon1 · 03/08/2025 11:58

Ihatemondays1962 · 03/08/2025 11:36

Well done, what have you retrained as?

Thank you. Trained in software and data.

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SecretAnon1 · 03/08/2025 12:00

dizzydizzydizzy · 03/08/2025 11:50

This is so good to hear. Congratulations!

If you're under 40, start a LISA.

Thanks. As soon as our debt is cleared we will be saving into a LISA. This will help with our first house purchase too.

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