How often do close colleagues message you?

[wheresmymojo]

A bit of a weird one but I was wondering how often colleagues you’re close with (as in ‘work friends’) message you either on Teams or WhatsApp?

There’s a guy at work, someone I’ve become friends with (we don’t see each other outside of the office).

We’re often messaging on and off through the day…some work related, some just general banter and chat. A mix of Teams and WhatsApp.

I guess I’m wondering whether the interest is more than friends on his side - but he’s a friendly, sociable guy and we have pretty good banter so perhaps he just enjoys the jokes(?)

If you’re quite extrovert, do you typically message your work friends fairly frequently…?

(Yes, I realise I sound like a teenager. I am in fact mid-40s!)

Never.

Every day. Not all the same person, all different people but definitely most days I would chat to someone from work.

This sounds like it’s only one person texting you though all the time, that’s different. Does he like you ?

Yes, I’m talking about how often one person messages you if you consider them a fairly close ‘work friend’.

I’d say we message back and forth a fair bit every day. Personally, it’s more than I’ve ever been in touch with someone - I guess I’m trying to make sure I’m not just reading something into it that isn’t there.

Like perhaps he’s just a very friendly, sociable guy and likes my company but it doesn’t mean anything more than that?

I message back and forth a lot with my colleagues, some I speak to most days - both work related and general chat/banter. There is nothing more to it than just being friendly and sociable on my side, and I'm confident that they would say exactly the same, it's just a nice way to chat and build a rapport the way you might in the office, especially when everyone works remotely so much of the time. I'd be quite embarrassed if anyone thought there was any motive to my messaging them other than being friendly, so I'd advise treading quite carefully if this is something you want to pursue, OP.

Never.

Ahhh I message a few colleagues on and off on WhatsApp and teams. I think it depends on the situation but in my case, definitely nothing there, I just like talking to these people! Reading this thread is making me worried

I chat to people whilst Im at work. I also chat via teams (once we've already talked about the work reason we msg/called each other).
Never ever do I chat to any colleagues if Im not working and also never via any social media.

I wouldn't think twice of chatting a lot.
But I have never accidentally wondered about there being interest without there being interest.

Not me. I prefer to stay away from all that jokey stuff except if it is neutral jokes or observations, as it seems like a very eggshell-y environment and I don’t want to get caught up in someone misunderstanding a joke or something that I have said. I’m not someone who does offend (quite the opposite), but I keep a low profile nevertheless (but I am friendly).

I would be worried about things being taken the wrong way etc. No one needs that headache.

Me too. I guess it’s the frequency and it being every single day. But I may be reading too much into it…

Thanks, that’s useful and exactly the kind of thing I needed. Wasn’t sure if I was reading too much in to it and looks like I could be!

Daily

I have 3 colleagues I teams regularly. One is my ex desk mate as he has gone to a different office. One is my new desk mate and it’s usually work related and one is a someone on the other side of the office who I have shared interests with and see outside of work. Usually talk about the shared interests. None are massive amounts of messaging. Maybe 30 seconds two times a day

Are you interested in him/her? Because if you are and it’s not against policy or you think wouldn’t make things weird you could always try and ask them for a drink to find out 😀

I message one of my colleagues most days, because we work together closely and are work friends. But he’s happily married and i don’t have any attraction for him.
We also have a 30 minute meeting once a week, which is 80% gossip / weekend chat, and 20% work chat.

I never have any kind of messaging outside of the office even though when I am at work messages can be jovial and not always work related.