I walk out of my job

[DarthEdgeLord]

Hi,

I'm having a vent as need to get this off my chest.

Yesterday, I walked out of my job midshift and I feel relieved! This has been building up for the last few months. After a customer told me to shut up and eff off, that was it for me. Customers get supported no matter how abusive they are. Management bow down to the scum just to keep the peace.

Regular druggies and alcoholics use the shop to fund their habits one way or another.

My line manager was a complete arsehole from day one. Her mood swings were hard to deal with. One day she would speak, another day she would look straight through as if you didn't exist goving me the silent treatment. Treading on eggshells monitoring her moods was so stressful. My mother is like her and I have been no contact for over 20 years. I sure as heck won't tolerate this weird behaviour in my working life. Adults need to grow up and stop mind games. I despise mind games. They don't work with me and I refuse to play.

Before I left work, I spoke with my line manager and told her why I was leaving and her contribution to my decision. No surprise she denied any wrong doing, she denied things she had said that she would action which never came to fruition. She conveniently "doesn't remember saying that". It was worse than talking to a brick wall.

At least I don't have to spend my days treading on eggshells. I refuse to do that with anyone. My wellbeing started to deteriorate and I started to feel down about myself.

I'm.interesred to know your experiences with dealing with toxic managment. Have you walked out of a job?

I did, many years ago. It was a table waiting job in third year, after a few years of that kind of work as a student. In the middle of the shift I forgot to take a salad to a table, and the manager owner screamed at me in the middle of the kitchen that if I screwed up once more then I shouldn’t even ask if I was fired, I should just fuck off.

At the end of the shift, as I was leaving I realised that I never wanted to wait another table, never wanted to kowtow again to a narc prick of a manager, so I went back in and said I was done. “Okay, but you still have to work tomorrow’s shift”, said the manager… er, no I don’t! That was my last service role.

Do you have an HR department? is this a chain of stores?

If so I would make a written complaint to head office for bullying from your manager and also for putting your safety at risk. Tell them you will be making a claim for constructive dismissal (basically saying that you had no choice but to resign because of the toxic work environment).

I completely understand how you feel and I have walked out of a job on a couple of occasions, usually in the first month because it was nothing like what was advertised/the environment was toxic or I had concerns about the company's ethics.

I've walked out of a few jobs in my time, for similar reasons. A job is a contract between 2 parties, each has responsibilities to the other. Ive never knowingly left anyone "in the lurch"
You learn through experience that loyalty to an employer doesn't mean so much if they aren't being fair to their staff.
I've always made sure though that I've been paid first.

I had a job a few years ago where i realised on the first day I had made a mistake, bosses extremely demanding, wanting updates every half an hour (they weren't on site) despite the fact it was a very fast paced busy environment, wanted us to be filing between patients despite there being no time ( was 3 lots of appointments going on at times) on my day off my boss rang to have a go at me (I already had another job lined up but it didn't start for a couple of months) so I said I was handing my notice in, he said no I'm firing you! Gave a week's notice and on my final day where I only worked until lunchtime the other receptionist rang in sick so he asked if I could stay until the end of the day, I'm a massive people pleaser but I said no I'm leaving at lunchtime which really left him in the lurch 😁 was only there a few weeks so won't need to put it on my CV

Btw I learned after I took the job on that they went through staff like nobody's business, I wonder why!!

Good for you! It takes guts to stand up and say no. 😀

It's so annoying when the actual job spec differs negatively to the advertised one. I feel like some employers say anything to get staff. They're like politicians. Full of bs and saying the right thkngs but their actions differ.

There is a "People" team but only contactable by phone. I've contacted ACAS for some advice because I was only with the company for 10 months. Constructive dismissal isn't an option. However, as I haven't yet received my final pay, I can lodge a grievance which is what I shall do.

I want my say, formally and for other managers to read it. An apology would be good but I am a realist so not expecting that.

I know for a fact it is happening to other colleagues and one said she agrees to me saying she says it's a toxic environment. That's just hearsay from me though and not concrete proof. Nobody is putting their head above the parapet to support me. They don't want to be ostracised or they are humouring me!. Either way, it's my word against management and the outcome already seems obvious.