When did you know it was time to go?

[cocoromo]

Hi all,
I have decided to apply for a new job. I have been in my position for a year and had a very long stressful time, being overworked and overwhelmed, mixed with a toxic environment and terrible manager, today was the day that broke the camels back.
I am looking forward to leaving and having some time off.
what was the straw that broke your back and tell me your success stories of leaving!

What was the straw that broke the camels back? Without outing yourself of course. Also been in a role for just over a year and wondering if I’m getting development out of it, and whether there is a stigma for leaving after a year. Keen to see your replies on the success stories of others! X

Not a success story yet but give it time.

Wondering if you work for my employer given the overworking, stressful and toxic environment but unlikely given the scope of MN.

The camels back broke long ago in my place, now I'm gathering evidence to have the 100+ year old company shut down for good.
Once it starts making you angry to the point you vent that anger at your family, not in terms of blaming them obviously but taking out your anger by shouting or being grumpy, when you spend your days off/family days alone because you "need to decompress". That's when you're done, that's when you're work stress starts affecting your home/family life and enough is enough.

I hope you find a job where you're happy and valued OP, I know how it feels. I'm not done yet. But once I take down my employer for putting lives at risk and secure a new job somewhere I'm valued and my hard work is appreciated, I'll be happy.

My toxic boss berated me and made me feel like I wasn’t capable of doing my job. I started to look for alternative work immediately and after a year of waiting to find the right role I’m going. Can’t wait!

I have had some vile managers in my time but the worst one was a husband/wife set up - she called in one morning to say he won't be in because he'd spent the night in police custody after beating her up.
That was when l knew l had to go and thank fuck l managed to get a job pretty quickly.
Awful awful man and the last l heard, he was in prison.

Two things (though I haven't got a new job yet but am trying)
1 - no pay rise after being rated exceeding and massively over delivering when other people did get pay rises
2 - having a piece of work landed on me by my MD and politely explaining I did not have capacity due to covering other people's work and being told "I'm sure will find time" this is an organisation that professes to care about staff, mental health etc. that was the moment I just internally went "fuck you" and started my job search.

my straw was being ambushed in a meeting by my boss and the favourite. Luckily I had my ducks in a row and had documented the issue that caused the meeting, however it was just realising how toxic things were that has prompted me to move on.
i have done an application for a job that is less secure but more money. I am so done at the moment I wouldn’t even care if it was less money. I’m feel totally burnt out and exhausted.

I'll never work for a family business again. That's all I'm saying.

Where do i start!!!

having a boss who doesn’t understand the role and then interferes when you go on holiday, trebling peoples workloads and making promises to the board without knowing the commitment required.

or same boss not having any back bone and supporting her team when challenged by others..

or not being thanked for working countless non working days but then challenging you taking a small portion of the time back.

or never asking how you are!

yes I’m on the hunt for a new job 12 months in….

My last job, I had my doubts after a week. Knew for certain after two weeks. Awful atmosphere in the office and I had almost nothing to do (I know I’d only just started but I was bored from the off - I stayed 7 months in the end, which is how long it took me to find another job and work my ridiculously long notice period - 3 months 😭 -and my workload never increased).

The job before that nearly broke me. There I had serious doubts after three months but blamed myself (wrongly) and carried on, getting more and more unhappy until I finally handed my notice in after 18 months. There was no final straw but I was miserable, work was overshadowing everything and I knew it wouldn’t improve.

Atter those two jobs I’d just about decided that there were no decent ones to be had but my current job has restored my faith 😄 Lovely people, work I enjoy and I’m really valued. It is possible! Good luck!

Thank you all for your comments and solidarity. It’s awful how many people have been through similar things

We should keep this thread for the job hunt support.

The toxicity got too much. I was viciously verbally attacked by a colleague and management wouldn't believe me and refused to deal with it. Plus, I was seriously overworked and hadn't had a payrise in years. I walked out, never to go back. I took a couple of months to lick my wounds, then started job hunting. I have a much nicer job now two years on, and I'm so much happier.

When I panicked so much and locked myself in the stationary cupboard. I realised this was not normal behaviour so I finally contacted the gp and got help.

I am just updating - handed in my notice Friday. Been offered a great new job and start in September:)

Oh that's great news! Best of luck with your new job, and well done for getting out of there.

Amazing' I'm jealous. No luck here. Any tips as I feel like my applications just go into an abyss.