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Leaving guilt

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LuffyMe · 18/06/2025 20:14

3 years ago, I started as a project support officer in a tiny team at a respected institution. From day one, the role felt like a poor fit, onboarding was non existent and I received little guidance or training. Despite achieving double our recruitment target, requests for support were denied due to funding. Eventually, the stress of an unmanageable workload became overwhelming and I was signed off sick for 6 weeks with burnout. On returning, nothing changed and had a 6 week backlog to deal with.

Nine months ago, as my contract neared its end and the Project Manager prepared for maternity leave, I was told promised funding for an extension had fallen through. My only option was to apply for her role. I took it out of necessity.
2 days later she went on maternity , I stepped into a demanding role with no handover, no training, and no support. The position requires regulatory contractual and specialist knowledge I didn’t have, and much of the existing tasks and documentation were incomplete or unavailable. I’ve done my best, but the pressure has taken a serious toll on my health.

I handed my notice in on Monday and leave in 2 weeks, I have a further 2 weeks annual leave to tag on the end. I worry how others will see my work, but I know I gave everything I had in a situation that was never built for success.

Time is limited and I won't be able to tie up all the loose ends. The project will be paused until September. What would you put in place for your replacement. I feel sad that someone on paper will look at the job and think it sounds amazing, but the reality is that its a ticking bomb.

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HelplessSoul · 18/06/2025 21:40

Fuck it - I wouldnt put fuck all in place.

Once you leave, its not your problem. And dont forget, when you took on this role, you werent supported.

So why support the person replacing you when you yourself wont even be there to see the shitshow?

Fuck em.

LuffyMe · 19/06/2025 17:52

You're right, I just hate the thought of people bad mouthing me and thinking that I've not got a clue what I was doing and that I've done a really shit job!

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CopperWhite · 19/06/2025 17:55

The people that initially look at your work don’t matter to you. You won’t be there and other peoples opinions are their own business. It probably won’t be long before your replacement realised why you left.

HelplessSoul · 19/06/2025 19:55

LuffyMe · 19/06/2025 17:52

You're right, I just hate the thought of people bad mouthing me and thinking that I've not got a clue what I was doing and that I've done a really shit job!

Sticks n stones.

They'll be too busy working out WTF to do rather than bad mouth you.

SilverGlitterBaubles · 22/06/2025 11:50

Your main priority is recovering and getting yourself better. You know you have given it your all, stepping up without support at the expense of your own health. If others cannot see this they are not worth bothering about. I am in a similar position OP and also feel how it is difficult to let go, feelings of failure and but keep reminding myself that no job is worth sacrificing your health for.

ACynicalDad · 22/06/2025 11:52

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