Mu husband started part-time postgrad study about 15 months ago, which involved him being away every other Fri/Sat, I never complained.
I had a baby 8 months ago.
He is still doing a full-time job, the postgrad study will finish in December, but still requires 13 days away. He is also starting a business. He plans to leave his full-time job in November/ when I go back to work after maternity leave.
However, in the meantime, at the moment he works almost every weekday morning from 6am, recently he has worked all of Saturday and much of Sunday on his business and he does sport every Friday night in person and often Wednesday night online.
Ive been patient, but in the last 6 weeks, I keep having out bursts of being so angry.. it’s mainly because I leave everything tidy in the house and he comes by and never leaves it the same. It is just endless. He says I should go out, but I don’t have time to plan. We also have no family nearby to help. I miss being a partnership with him.
I feel I’ve realised that family is most important, appreciating our home etc etc. I love him, but we’ve been together 4-5 years and the things we’ve done so far, we’ve undertaken together.
He hopes to do the new business for 4 years and then sell it. It just seems to be dawning on me what life will be like. Lots of work trips, weekend work, morning, evening. Tonight he is out for a work dinner and I’m eating takeaway at home whilst our baby sleeps.
He wants to do the business, it seems he has to. But I am unhappy and it may get worse, as part of what he is setting up with be in a foreign country, requiring travel.
I haven’t found a way yet to feel happier with this situation. He says I need a purpose (presumably suggesting if I focus on work, it will be ok he’s working a lot?) I will go back to work almost full-time later in the year.
My question is, has anyone been in this situation. How do people with partners creating businesses manage? Unfortunately it isn’t something I’m particularly interested in. I haven’t even met his new business partner who doesn’t live in this country.