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Unsure whether to take job offer

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Zomella · 12/06/2025 07:37

Hi! Hoping to get some advice and opinions regarding my career.
I have worked night shifts for a number of years and I'm currently employed at a place that I can sleep when the shift is quiet. Most nights I do get at least some sleep albeit short amounts and broken. Shifts are 2-3 times a week and 14.5 hours long. I use minimal childcare for my 2 year old (2 mornings a week at nursery) and family generally have him for me overnight (my husband works away alot!). I work 1 in 3 weekends.
I have recently applied for a day job which is more money, more progression and a slightly different career path. It is 5 days a week but the shifts are only 8 hours long and finish at either 3/4pm. Weekend work is uncommon.
I will be able to afford to pay for more childcare due to my increase in wages. But I am so used to looking after my son everyday I am struggling to make this decision. I effectively am a full time stay at home mum, with a full time night job and it can be exhausting at times. But I feel immensely guilty for looking for a job that means I spend less time hanging out with my little one.
What does everyone think? Am I being stupid to even consider it? Or would I feel less burnt out and would it be better to spend every afternoon/evening at home?
Thanks

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boringingoring · 12/06/2025 07:45

Your child will benefit more from an engaged, refreshed version of you than he will from more time with the exhausted version. Unless there's another reason you're hesitating about taking the new job, I'd say go for it.

lifesabitchandthenyoudie · 14/06/2025 09:58

Hi, I get it; it's tricky as he's a bit young imo. BUT, you exhausted is probably not as good as less of you but not! He's had the first bit with you, which has likely set him up well and is used to nursery. It won't be all that long before he's at school... also better career progression is a pro. Of course, you may well leave it for now and find a similar job in a year or two. But I come back to you being exhausted; that isn't sustainable for you, or positive for your little one. Whatever you decide/decided, though, you have to remember Sliding Doors and believe that whichever way you go will work out x

CreteBound · 14/06/2025 10:07

Sounds like your husband needs to make adjustments to his HALF of the childcare so you aren’t exhausted. What’s his plan?

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