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Lost my confidence as a manager

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daisiesandrosess · 24/05/2025 18:36

Just thought I would post here for some advice even though I sound so stupid typing it out.

I’ve been in management roles for about 5 years and managed my current team for 3. Earlier this year, following a period of performance management, one of my team raised a grievance against me citing bullying which wasn’t true. After investigation the grievance wasn’t upheld and the staff member in question has since left. I feel like I should have put the whole thing behind me by now and I get that it’s part and parcel of being a manager but it’s completely knocked my confidence. I feel on edge and anxious all the time and I’m filled with fear about potentially getting another complaint made against me or getting sacked. I can’t switch off from work and worry about speaking to any of team 1:1 or bringing up any mistakes etc… I’m having a bit of tough time personally aside from work which is impacting my mental health and is probably playing a part in this too.

In an ideal world I’d probably look for a non-management role within my organisation however I can’t really afford to take the step down financially.

Has anyone got any tips or advice for getting over the anxiety and getting my confidence back?

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rubyslippers · 24/05/2025 18:39

You’ve had your confidence knocked
someone made you feel vulnerable
look at some coaching / mentoring
do your other reports feel positive about your management style

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