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Newly single mum and shit scared

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User7164 · 09/05/2025 19:43

I’m probably going to get a lot of hate for this but I’m desperate and have no one to speak to.
My partner and I are splitting up after 4 terrible years of trying to hold it together for our son. I got pregnant straight after uni and have been a SAHM for the last 4 years (my partner has always earned the money, paid for the house etc, everything is in his name).
Obviously I have no real qualifications or experience to fall back on, I’m not good at anything and have no real passions. Other than my son who has been the centre of my world for the last 4 years. I had a horrible upbringing which made being a loving, present parent the most important thing to me.
I have no idea what I’m going to do. I know the reality for most mums is the exact thing I’m so terrified of, working long hours and never seeing my baby, worrying about covering bills with an entry level salary etc, and I completely acknowledge the privilege of the situation I have been in.
I just feel so naive and stupid for never having a back up plan or anything of my own. I have no idea how I’m going to start over, how I’m going to be apart from my baby, where I can start to look for work, it’s just all getting too much to bare and I don’t know where to begin. I have no one I can speak to as all of my friends are in similar relationships (albeit happy ones). i dont know how it’s got to this.

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Rpolo · 09/05/2025 19:49

You can claim universal credit and work a part time job. It will be ok. I did it last year and I’m not flush with money but we’re doing ok!

Eyerollexpert · 09/05/2025 20:15

Really you will be fine and you CAN do this and ace it. You son will be in school before you know and you will have time away from him regardless.
Did you enjoy your degree can you use this to get into a profession, yes it might be entry level but we all have started that way.
Being at home for so long may have made you lose confidence in your abilities but taking the first steps to secure a good future for the two of you will soon help.
Good luck.

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