New Job, a bad feeling

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I started a new job a few days ago. In just a few short days I have witnesses that the majority of people are unhappy, are fearful of the management. There has also been a huge amount of comments about the controling behaviour of my manager and I have already seen some very poor behaviour myself.

I then received an email, to which I am copied in, this email was from said manager. They had sent an email booking him and I into a hotel and for a meal i.e. he'd arranged a work trip for three days next week with no prior mention to me about dates.

When I took the job i knew it involved some travel but I assumed that there would be a brief conversation about details prior. Am I being unreasonable?

It seems odd not to at least go through the motions of checking my availability, i am getting a very bad feeling about the place.

Trust your intuition, it will never let you down.

booking a work trip with no prior notice is indirect discrimination because there is a high likelihood that women are negatively impacted by that controlling behaviour, also he is using his seniority to control you, which is very poor leadership behaviour.

keep your cards close to your chest but if I were you I'd be planning an exit strategy right now.

That is wild. Do you have kids to sort. To not ask you if you can be away from home for three days is absolutely shocking. Good luck 🙈

Trust your feelings.

I felt a job was off on day 2. Stupidly ignored by gut and carried on. It was so awful I lasted 7 months, had a breakdown, PTSD and didn't work for 6 months. It put the death knoll into what a really good career before then.

Thanks, for your thoughts. Thats just how I feel. Spent the weekend applying for jobs. I just don't like his behaviour. I am worried about traveling with him as well. A six hour journey, I am thinking of telling him I will drive myself.

Last week I had a conversation with him about his behaviour. I was on day two. This was before the work trip email.. Would you broach the subject of he didnt mention the dates to me and let him know that asking about availability is required? Its respectful!!

My colleagues have told me:

I am the 7th person in my role in 6 years (yes not the answer they gave me at interview)
He likes to sack people (no senior managers with more than 2 years service)
He watches what time people come to and leave work on cctv (even if they come to work early)..He also mentioned this to me as though acceptable..
He sends rude emails if you dont answer your emails to him when you are on holiday

It feels just wrong...

The salary is very high but I have a feeling that its not an environment that is healthy. My health is more important than money..but a friend said I am being a drama queen...

The type of job I am in takes a while to find, senior management positions but I just feel uncomfortable all the time (a few days in).

I have a team and they are all great and in fact told me after 4 days that I am refreshing..

@Titasaducksarse Sorry about what happened to you. That is what I am worried about. How are you doing now? xx

@WeAreAllBucked No kids but a husband. I just feel its controlling and it worrys me a lot. I'd like to tell him to stick the job up his *rse.

Run for the hills!!
Honestly, if you can, stay for the first paycheck in 3-4 weeks. If not just don't turn up on Tuesday.

Nothing is worth more than your health- it's really the only asset you have that guarantees you a job, any job.

My husband has said the same as you @DancefloorAcrobatics

Not sure what to do about the work trip...