Not being flexible

[Gemmarebecca98]

My work has decided to put me on till 5.30 two days end of the month when daughter finish’s nursery at 5.30 what am I meant to do and how do I tell work I can’t do till 5.30

I might be able to get someone from her nursery to watch her for twenty minutes or so just white I finish work and travel home but just this once I’m not doing it every week I’ve put unavailability in for the times shes finish’s as it’s going to start affecting her if it keeps happening

@BIWI I never seen it when I went back not sure if it got changed

So your dp’s job says no to flexibility do your job has to pick up the slack because your mummy?

Thats why women have a hard time in employment.

Id be a lot more flexible with you if you came to me and said ‘I have these two shifts, dp is going to sort one, but can I get the other changes?’ - if you come with ‘dp job says no, he’s big man and I’m little lady attitude so I need you to work round him’ I’d be much less accommodating.

you shouldn’t have to resign for the sake of essentially an hour a week that you can’t work due to childcare. Look at the charity pregnant then screwed which has lots of helpful advice on flexible working requests and employment rights etc.

Also, your dh needs to consider whether there is anything he can do to make this work for you as a family.

@Ossoduro2 he does his own Rotas buts he’s away for couple of days on a training course so obviously can’t help with nursery pick up I’m hoping I’ve found a solution as someone at her nursery could walk her home and keep an eye on her just till I get home as it would be only 15 minutes-20 at most hoping this works just for this time but have put unavailable for the other times as they keep doing this to me

Every week does make it more difficult the impact on other people would be bigger ultimately it’s not fair for other people to have to more lates

I had a similar thing for a few months when DD was a baby. One of the nursery staff took her home with them and looked after her for about an hour every other week, which of course I paid for. DD enjoyed it but it did unsettle her as she missed her usual bedtime so it generally meant a poor night’s sleep for both of us. But it only lasted a few months until a project finished at work and it got me out of a hole.

@everyone I’ve tried seeing if someone at nursery would be able to watch her but it’s against their policy’s wish me luck as I’m gonna go my deputy manager