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How should I handle this?

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Cherryblossom200 · 07/04/2025 20:35

Hello!

I started a new job three months ago and up for my probationary review meeting. From the very beginning the place has been chaotic, there wasn’t really any onboarding process, my line manage is beyond useless (doesn’t help that she is new herself) and has little to no line managerial experience.

My manager creates rules for the sake of them to prove she is ‘managing’ the team. She’s now decided that in a team of 6, we are only ever allowed to take off holiday when no one else can take time off. Most of us are parents to young children, so there will be a fight for holidays. Meaning most of us won’t actually be able to spend much time with our children. Guess what she doesn’t have any young children, so it doesn’t affect her.

There have been issues from the start about working from home, I made it clear from the start that I would only ever do two days in the office due to childcare and this would be a deal breaker for me. One month in they changed it to coming in four days a week for the foreseeable future. I complained and said this wasn’t what I signed up for.

I’m a full time single parent. Flexibility is crucial for me, I made it clear from the start so I was angry that my employer went against what I asked for so quickly.

However my employer has been very good in terms of me having to take time off for a scheduled NHS operation. I told them about it prior to me starting in my first interview. I left it with them to decide if they wanted to move forward.

I had to take a week off, which I said I would take as unpaid. Instead they were really nice and said I could have it as paid leave. It was a fairly big operation which requires a lot of healing time. The issue is I went back into the office two weeks after my op and one of my stitches has come out, the wound is now infected. My manager is very controlling and weird about people not being in the office. I’ve been holding off going back to hospital for fear of taking time off. But my wound is getting worse. I’m supposed to be in the office tomorrow, but I need to go back to the hospital to get myself sorted.

I general I don’t like how my company treats people, I’m really not happy and want to leave. I have savings from my redundancy which I received last year. I wanted to try and find a job whilst I was in this job.

I guess I’m worried about not going into the office tomorrow for fear I’m going to end up being asked to leave. My health is more important. But being left jobless in this market is scary. However my job is so busy I have no time to look for a new job, so I’m sort of stuffed whatever I do 😳

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RechargeableGnu · 08/04/2025 00:02

You can sign yourself off. Go to hospital / Dr/ get that wound looked at asap.

Letstrythatagaineh · 08/04/2025 00:11

Good God you need to get medical attention asap tomorrow, if not tonight!
You're very absorbed in this stupid managers rules, take a step back from this nonsense and prioritise your health.
Take as much time as you need off and job hunt in these next few days while you're at home getting better 🌹

Cherryblossom200 · 08/04/2025 09:35

Thanks everyone I’m off to the hospital this morning 😊 x

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