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Need advice/help. Don't know how to deal with this.

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FaithFables · 07/04/2025 18:03

I WFH for a private sector company that is contracted by the DWP. I usually work in UC reviews. Very good at my job, hit all my targets, get results, well liked by manager and colleagues.

Company was offering staff from my dept a month's contract on the UC helpline during April. Offered an extra £500 on top of usual pay. So I took it, who wouldn't? I knew that it would be challenging, but I never expected it to be so fucking stressful, and to get so much abuse!

Had a week's training last week (which honestly for the stuff we're supposed to know and do was abominable). Went live on the phonelines today, and I ended up having a bloody massive panic attack after my first call.

Like hyperventilating, couldn't stop crying. I've done call centre work before, I'm not afraid of conflict, but JFC! The way I was spoken to, I couldn't take it. There was no way I could go back on the phone. Messaged my (new and old manager) to explain, ending up crying down the phone to both of them.

Asked if I could just come back to my old job, and give up on the extra money. They spoke to the higher ups and the answer is basically no. Work on the phone lines for the next month or else.

I told my manager I'd end up having to call in sick, there's no way I can do it. I get upset just thinking about getting back on the phonelines. I'm not the only person who has reacted this way. There's quite a few others who hate it and just want to go back to old role.

This isn't a permanent move we're supposed to go back to old job in May. But now I'm stuck, I either endure the phone lines for the next month and just let my mental health decline rapidly or ring in sick. And I'm worried I'll lose my job entirely if I ring in sick for the next month!

If I'd known how fucking awful it was going to be I'd never have signed up for it! Lots of other people feel they were misled, too. What do I do? I've only been there for 7 months so they can easily sack me.

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FaithFables · 07/04/2025 18:03

Ah shite forgot to NC! 🙄

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Maitri108 · 07/04/2025 18:07

What does it say in your contract? Are they changing the nature of your job description? You can contact Acas for advice.

WompWompBoom · 07/04/2025 18:08

Don't go off sick. Work on zoning out. Grey rock when people are rude. Count down the days until you're back in your old role.

user1468867181 · 07/04/2025 18:16

Try to zone out and detach. Remember that however abusive people are it's not directed against you but the system. Some of the callers will be very unpleasant people but many will just be desperate as they haven't received responses to messages on their journal or will have been promised a call back from a Case Manager that never comes. I work in an advice agency and we are able to end calls if the caller continues to be abusive after a warning. Are you able to end calls if a caller is very abusive?

lostinthesunshine · 07/04/2025 18:19

FaithFables · 07/04/2025 18:03

Ah shite forgot to NC! 🙄

Report your own post to message MNHQ and they will change it for you.

Take care, it sounds very stressful 💐

cakeandteaandcake · 07/04/2025 18:40

That sounds like quite an extreme reaction after one call. Is there any training available on dealing with stressed customers?

MoominMai · 07/04/2025 18:50

Ive worked in many government front line jobs with the public so understand how you likely feel. If it were me, I’d ask if I could have a chat with a more experienced call handler just to get pointers on them how to deal with the more challenging calls.

VivX · 07/04/2025 21:11

Keep telling yourself it isn't you, it isn't personal, they're venting at the system. Do you have an employee assistance programme at work that you can access?

FaithFables · 08/04/2025 12:54

Thanks for the replies! I bit the bullet and just did it today. Once I got over my nerves it’s been fine so far, and both my managers have been really supportive. Just need to get through the next 3 weeks. Going back to my old job will feel like winning the lottery! 😆

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Treesarenotforeating · 11/04/2025 13:32

Well done @FaithFables
one day at a time

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