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Weird interview - feeling hopeless

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StaceyLacey94 · 07/04/2025 15:32

I've been applying for jobs and have had very little luck (trying to change career direction and get out of audit into a sustainability focussed role since finishing a masters degree last year). Have sent many applications and I just get ghosted or rejected. I had some traction with one role with a large well-known company that I was quite interested in, and managed to get to the end of the whole process, but it seems I'm back at square one.

It was a four stage interview process that began a few months ago. Recruiter screening, followed by 1st, 2nd, and 3rd stage interviews. The 1st and 2nd stage interviews went well, I had spent hours preparing for them and to really clue up on the industry and try to explain my transferable and technical skills. I somehow made it to the final interview with the most senior decision makers, but the final interview really threw me.

From the get go, the interviewers seemed extremely uninterested and transactional. They just did a brief introduction then asked me to a give a presentation I was asked to prepare beforehand on how I'd navigate a specific business challenge they were facing that was set out in some instructions. It was a complex business challenge touching multiple areas of their business that required a ton of work and preparation, I must have spent several weeks researching and preparing for it. I delivered the presentation well, although I was a bit nervous about having to do it in-person for a panel, but I didn't come across as nervous. I didn't make any mistakes, felt I came across as confident, and I'd practised it with someone beforehand.

After it was done, the lead interviewer asked a few kind of robotic questions, but she really didn't show any kind of interest in the presentation and recommendations beyond some very surface level questions. There was no feedback given, she was very poker faced and I could not read whether she was interested in what I had said. The other interviewer looked deeply bored, he asked a few questions that felt like they were going through the motions. They then started to try to close down the interview after about 10 minutes of their questions, so I asked if I could ask my own questions which they answered, but in a very scripted robotic way. They didn't say anything that actually 'sold' the role, sounded quite dispassionate. I started to panic when I realised what was happening - never been in an interview that ended so early and certainly not a final one where the stakes are this high. I felt they were really trying to get out of the meeting - yikes. At the end, they said they still had other candidates to interview and would get back in a week.

It's been 10 days since then and I haven't heard anything back, and crushingly, saw the company reposted the same role on their website. I am mainly confused and have been feeling slightly humiliated to be honest. I don't understand how I could get through the initial stages so well, and then the final interview go so disastrously. It didn't feel like it was my fault either - their demeanour and the weird vibes I got from the outset felt very off from the get go like I said. There was little chance to build any rapport with them. I've wondered whether they already had a candidate lined up, but that doesn't seem to make sense if they have reposted the role. Then I wonder if I got taken through the process for diversity box-ticking reasons (had indicated I'm a woman and black in the application process), so it's all just been messing with my head and my confidence is shattered.

I've come to the conclusion that I certainly won't be getting this role given the timing and vibes, but I don't understand what this very odd process was all about. It seems like a huge waste of time for all involved, and I don't get why a final interview could start on the wrong foot. I don't recall saying anything stupid, some of my answers to their questions maybe weren't great as I was thrown by the weird vibe of it all, but I thought I did a solid job preparing.

Anyone else had a similar experience? :/

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TortolaParadise · 07/04/2025 18:06

Yes, it is hard to jump through endless hoops. However go with your gut feeling.

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 07/04/2025 18:38

Is there anything that might so up on an online search that they only did before the final interview? Other than that I have no idea.

You could reach out to them and ask for feedback but that is often unsatisfactory and so generic to be useless.

Remember you are interviewing them as much as them interviewing you and it doesn’t sound like a great company to work for.

InWithThePlums · 07/04/2025 18:43

That’s really shit. I will say it doesn’t sound like a nice place to work though!

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 07/04/2025 18:49

Agree with the above posters, if they are like that in a final (?) interview, bored, a bit dismissive, not giving you chance to shine etc, then imagine working with them. That would be soul crushing, and you’d be feeling that you had to stay a while so it didn’t look bad on your CV.

StaceyLacey94 · 07/04/2025 18:51

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 07/04/2025 18:38

Is there anything that might so up on an online search that they only did before the final interview? Other than that I have no idea.

You could reach out to them and ask for feedback but that is often unsatisfactory and so generic to be useless.

Remember you are interviewing them as much as them interviewing you and it doesn’t sound like a great company to work for.

My online presence is pretty limited, don't have social media and professional networking sites are very much... professional, nothing controversial. The only other thing I can think of is that the last stage interviewers only saw my CV just before the interview and decided I wasn't a fit? But why get to that stage hmmm...

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SwanOfThoseThings · 07/04/2025 18:51

Is there any way you can contact someone from one of the earlier interviews that went well, to ask for feedback? You could mention you have seen the role readvertised and ask if there is any value in reapplying - the answer might shed some light on what's happened.

However, in my experience, it's often hard to rationalise this kind of decision - it can be made very much on the hirer's whim - they have some arcane idea of a dream candidate and dream answers to their questions and blot out anyone who doesn't follow their imaginary script.

StaceyLacey94 · 07/04/2025 18:52

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 07/04/2025 18:49

Agree with the above posters, if they are like that in a final (?) interview, bored, a bit dismissive, not giving you chance to shine etc, then imagine working with them. That would be soul crushing, and you’d be feeling that you had to stay a while so it didn’t look bad on your CV.

Thank you, yes that is a good way of looking at it. I know I will be rejected though, so it's just left me a bit puzzled about it and shattered my confidence. Felt something personal since I felt I must have been a strong enough candidate to make it all the way through, but something weird happened.

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tsmainsqueeze · 07/04/2025 19:00

Try not to feel disheartened ,surely they can't be a good company to work for if this is the impression they gave at interview stage.
Cast it aside and carry on ,its their loss but probably a lucky escape for you .

Hazel665 · 07/04/2025 19:00

Were the people in the final interview all new to you? I.e., had you met any of them in previous interviews?

If not, then I suspect this had absolutely nothing to do with you, but that this group of people had had a disagreement with people from the previous panels about what they were looking for. Or this panel have a personal problem with people from the previous panels and wanted to reject you (and others probably) in order to make a point. Your intuition has possibly been spot on in that there was a weird vibe to start with. In other words, it's not you, it's them!

I don't see why you shouldn't call though, to find out if they've made a decision yet or not.

StaceyLacey94 · 07/04/2025 19:03

Hazel665 · 07/04/2025 19:00

Were the people in the final interview all new to you? I.e., had you met any of them in previous interviews?

If not, then I suspect this had absolutely nothing to do with you, but that this group of people had had a disagreement with people from the previous panels about what they were looking for. Or this panel have a personal problem with people from the previous panels and wanted to reject you (and others probably) in order to make a point. Your intuition has possibly been spot on in that there was a weird vibe to start with. In other words, it's not you, it's them!

I don't see why you shouldn't call though, to find out if they've made a decision yet or not.

That is a very interesting take! Hadn't thought of that. Seems callous to subject someone to that experience due to some internal squabble. Yes, I will follow up now as I feel not getting a response and now seeing roles reposted / created is quite unprofessional while you're still technically in the process.

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Hazel665 · 07/04/2025 21:38

StaceyLacey94 · 07/04/2025 19:03

That is a very interesting take! Hadn't thought of that. Seems callous to subject someone to that experience due to some internal squabble. Yes, I will follow up now as I feel not getting a response and now seeing roles reposted / created is quite unprofessional while you're still technically in the process.

Agree that it is callous, but I worked in an organisation once where the job was definitely always going to go to a preferred internal candidate (although this wasn't stated outright if course), but they had to advertise and go through the 'show' of interviewing external candidates also. I felt very sorry for the external candidates who had got their hopes up, taken time off work, done loads of preparation etc, when they were never really in the running at all.

StaceyLacey94 · 07/04/2025 22:38

Hazel665 · 07/04/2025 21:38

Agree that it is callous, but I worked in an organisation once where the job was definitely always going to go to a preferred internal candidate (although this wasn't stated outright if course), but they had to advertise and go through the 'show' of interviewing external candidates also. I felt very sorry for the external candidates who had got their hopes up, taken time off work, done loads of preparation etc, when they were never really in the running at all.

Was that in the public sector by any chance? Because I have heard this before, but I don't see why private sector orgs would go through such a time wasting exercise?

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Hazel665 · 08/04/2025 07:20

Yes @StaceyLacey94, public sector.

MadridMadridMadrid · 08/04/2025 23:44

Hazel665 · 07/04/2025 19:00

Were the people in the final interview all new to you? I.e., had you met any of them in previous interviews?

If not, then I suspect this had absolutely nothing to do with you, but that this group of people had had a disagreement with people from the previous panels about what they were looking for. Or this panel have a personal problem with people from the previous panels and wanted to reject you (and others probably) in order to make a point. Your intuition has possibly been spot on in that there was a weird vibe to start with. In other words, it's not you, it's them!

I don't see why you shouldn't call though, to find out if they've made a decision yet or not.

Before reading this post, my brain was already formulating a thought along similar lines. OP, I think you were probably the victim of some kind of internal politics at the organisation, and that the people interviewing you possibly already knew before you walked in the room that they weren't going to offer you the job, but had been told that they had to go through with the interview.

StaceyLacey94 · 09/04/2025 02:12

MadridMadridMadrid · 08/04/2025 23:44

Before reading this post, my brain was already formulating a thought along similar lines. OP, I think you were probably the victim of some kind of internal politics at the organisation, and that the people interviewing you possibly already knew before you walked in the room that they weren't going to offer you the job, but had been told that they had to go through with the interview.

Thank you for the insight. The strange thing is that the final interviewers were the most senior people, why would they have to go through with it? If they disagreed with what earlier interviewers said or HR said, would they not have the power to just cancel? Gah, this whole thing has been very stressful.

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ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 09/04/2025 02:37

MadridMadridMadrid · 08/04/2025 23:44

Before reading this post, my brain was already formulating a thought along similar lines. OP, I think you were probably the victim of some kind of internal politics at the organisation, and that the people interviewing you possibly already knew before you walked in the room that they weren't going to offer you the job, but had been told that they had to go through with the interview.

This is what I think, too. Happens a lot.

Or there was a disagreement within the business about costs and they want to proceed with a more junior role , or one reporting into a different department…

FictionalCharacter · 09/04/2025 06:04

Yes, I’ve been through something similar more than once. It’s really horrible.

There’s no doubt that this wasn’t your fault, and whatever the reason for their appalling unprofessional behaviour, they’ve given you warning signs about what it would be like to work for them.

StaceyLacey94 · 09/04/2025 08:48

FictionalCharacter · 09/04/2025 06:04

Yes, I’ve been through something similar more than once. It’s really horrible.

There’s no doubt that this wasn’t your fault, and whatever the reason for their appalling unprofessional behaviour, they’ve given you warning signs about what it would be like to work for them.

Thank you, sorry you had to experience this too. Did you ever get feedback that led you to that conclusion, or just a gut feeling? I have half a mind to give them my own candid feedback about their process, but don't want to blacklist myself from a new industry.

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Tbrh · 09/04/2025 09:26

That's unfair that they wasted so much of your time. I wonder if something has changed and that's why they were dismissive. Either way, I think you've dodged a bullet. Well done for getting this far and I'd ask the recruiter/hiring manager for feedback. Given you've not been told no yet, it might not be over. I've had something similar where the job has been advertised again (and again), basically they had no idea what they were doing (my friend also got an interview who has completely different skills and experience to me), and my husband and I have both been at the end when suddenly the role has been pulled as there is no budget. Some places are completely disorganised/messed up so it's probably nothing to do with you.

holidayfever2024 · 09/04/2025 16:21

Hey Op don’t lose heart - I think this happens quite often and agree with other posters that it is often down to internal politics, budgets changing, senior folk feeling they haven’t had their say.
DH has had some shockers along these lines for senior roles.
As you say it’s appalling as it’s such a waste of so many people’s time. It’s almost certainly nothing you said or did wrong!
if it helps you reminded me of a role I once interviewed for - multiple rounds , presentations,
psychometric tests etc - the final round was a short informal meeting with the MD.
it was very odd he was quite a disconcerting character and at one point asked a strangely personal question - I ended up welling up with tears and then obviously felt so embarrassed I just could t focus - needless to say my other contact called me soon after to apologise but I didn’t get the
job.
I did however get another role not long after that was a much better fit really.
The other company turned out to be up for sale and I would have ended up being part of a giant organisation with none of the values I wanted to be part of so all was well in the end - dodged a bullet
Hopefully Your story will have a similar happy ending too.

FictionalCharacter · 10/04/2025 16:50

StaceyLacey94 · 09/04/2025 08:48

Thank you, sorry you had to experience this too. Did you ever get feedback that led you to that conclusion, or just a gut feeling? I have half a mind to give them my own candid feedback about their process, but don't want to blacklist myself from a new industry.

Gut feeling I suppose. I came away thinking that these were people I wouldn’t want to be working with every day if they can treat people like that. At other interviews I’ve felt the opposite- whether successful or not, it was an enjoyable experience, I felt I clicked with the people and they responded positively to me.
I don’t think candid feedback is a good idea in these circumstances.

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