I am stuck in a job i hate

[desparateidiot]

Just that really. Been here 3 years, it's good money for where I am at in the country. I can't find anything as well paid but I am losing the will to live and dread coming into work. It's a Management role I sort of fell into. I've done lots of different jobs and have lots of transferable skills (I'm 47 so I've had about 10 jobs and i've also been self employed).

I don't know where to start but starting to get more and more depressed coming into work each day.

Any advice or if anyone has been in this situation before could give me some words of wisdom.

I really still don't know what I want to do with my life. But I can't keep doing this!

what is it specifically that you’re dreading?

Say nothing to your employers but quietly start job hunting - you can take your time until you get a feel for another job that you feel is a good fit for you. In todays' climate - there's not many people who manage without some sort of income - so don't shoot yourself in the foot.
Good luck with the job search - there will be something out there for you.

Happened to me once, but I engineering my way out of it (with a big payout) by making some rather unusual decisions which seem to rattle everybody!!!

@desparateidiot , no advice but solidarity! I honestly could have written your post word for word. 3 years in, management role, 49, lots of prior employment including self employment, well paid, losing the will to live.

I have stuck it out this long to support my family. My DH has been trying to start a business for 4 years and has not earned any income in that time. He is finally looking for a job, and I am holding on grimly in the hopes he gets something soon.

I realised this morning that I am in a bad mood every Monday. I am really no longer productive or effective in my role. I genuinely don’t know what else to do with my life. I am paid too well to dramatically change my career, but at the same time can’t keep doing this. I am miserable!

I feel like I need 6 months off to recover. I need a self-funded long service leave. I started full time work at 17, so I am 32 years into this! The only problem is that being a single income family for 4 years, we can’t afford for me to have this time off.

Sorry for not being able to add anything positive. I will be following along for any stories that will help!

I'm so bored, it practically runs itself. I am also stuck in a cold building with no windows for 7.5hrs a day. There is nothing to get my teeth into anymore - and sometimes I start to doubt myself, is there something i'm not doing, i'm winging it, etc

There is nothing to dread being in a boring well paid job but a windowless room does sound horrible. Are there any other rooms that you can move to? Can you work from home more? I thought working rooms legally need to have natural light.

Can you consider getting signed off with depression? That might force their hand to come up with a solution.

I work in a warehouse environment, no other rooms I can work in, I'm literally in the middle of it. I get anxious when I am not doing anything. I don't work for the company that run the warehouse, I work for someone different based in another part of the country so It's quite isolating being the only Manager.

People at HO took the p*ss with 'working from home' so it stopped for all sites.

Can you run or suggest a new project?
your environment sounds less than ideal … not sure what can be done around that tho other than decent lighting and some plants?
get a radio?

There a radio on 24/7 - no repeat workday - they don't repeat the same songs between certain hours - they only repeat them every day, been the same station for 3 years 🙄

I dont think a plant would survive - but then it might go walk about over night - my desk is literally in the middle of a warehouse, no office.

I think I miss being out and about and speaking with people - I used to work in retail management, and i've been a delivery driver. I think I miss elements of those - and of course daylight. I wouldn't earn what I earn now doing either of those jobs - and I can't afford to take a paycut.

I will keep putting the lottery on 😂

No job is perfect but you need to find another job; we spend far too much of our lives working to be in a job you hate.

It sounds like a non-job - a job they don't actually need you for.

Decide if you can afford a pay cut - look for other jobs you can afford to take. Keep looking diligently.

If you really have nothing to sell at an interview, you will find it harder and harder to get another job as time goes on.

No wonder you get paid well. No many people would be happy to be trapped in a dark room all day, without light and noone to speak with, a cold room. Not very healthy.

Your councils employment team may have a team who deal with people who are underemployed, and their criteria may include people who want to make a move from their current role. You could try chatting to them to see if they have any advice.

I'm the only manager onsite and run the operation

I really can't afford a paycut

I have plenty to sell at an interview - it's finding something in this area that pays as well as where I am

When you said the job runs itself and there is nothing to get your teeth into it made it sound like there was very little for you to do.