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Boss work troubles

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56brumm · 11/03/2025 20:07

I work in health and safety I applied for a promotion within work then didn't get the job I'm fine with that. But it was all a bit weird. No one got the job. Then someone internal got the job who didn't apply. He causes a lot of issues and is paid a substantial more than other people. He gets lot of peoples backs up.

He has been put on the role for 6 months.

I have been good to him and while people are calling him I've tried to give him the benefit of the doubt.

I have noticed he's with drawing information and keeping things to him self which is making my now really hard.

He has made little remarks that have put me down recently.

He is forever sexist and (I'm 38) saying are u having a hot fluss shit like that.

The ceo requested that I present at a meeting one of our new policy's. And I was added to the agenda over a month ago.

Yesterday I was prepping for it and he said u don't need to go I will do it for u. I said no it will be good for me (I'm doing level6 and experience will be good)

So I could tell he didn't want me to go.

Then today he came up with another excuse for me not to go and when I questioned him why he said it was above my level. Even tho CEO requested me to do it.

I normally keep quite but I said I'm not happy with his comments and he give me some bs excuse as he was doing it to keep them on my side.

He then back tracked and said I should go.

I said no I will not go if my own boss has very little faith in me and he completely went back on what he said.

So I'm not going and I know I'm being stubborn but I'm sick of being treated like he's better than me.

The man does absolutely jack and I keep the department running he does the bare minimum.

Can I have some advice. I'm I being petty. Did I do the right thing. Should I take it further.

I'm not gas lighting my self at being too sensitive but every one thinks he's a lazy no it all. Help

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56brumm · 11/03/2025 20:10

Sorry for the sentences that make no sense. I'm dyslexic my children were talking and jumping on me while trying to right this and I'm really worked up. Sorry x

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Teenagequeenwithaloadedgun · 11/03/2025 21:00

First and foremost, I think you should absolutely do the presentation. Do not back out - he doesn't get a say in your career development!

Can you speak to your boss about him withholding information?

SueblueNZ · 11/03/2025 22:13

Agree. You MUST do the presentation. Do not pander to him by giving in on this.

mintchocolatecoffee · 12/03/2025 07:19

Your post made sense just fine, please don’t worry about that. Agree with others that you should do the presentation!

It sounds like you’re worried that if you complain about him, people might think it’s because he got the promotion you applied for? But the way he’s behaving isn’t ok, including the sexist comments.

I’d suggest keeping a diary / written record to get your thoughts together and keep a log - write down everything you can remember that’s already happened and log anything further. When you do this, and when you discuss it with your boss’s boss or perhaps HR, I think you need to stick to specific things he’s actually said and done. So not ‘everyone thinks he’s useless’ but ‘on this date he said this thing and did this thing’.

Vitriolinsanity · 12/03/2025 07:42

Absolutely do the presentation. Nail it, then him to the mast for being a prick.

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