Torn between two jobs

[Irisirene]

Our rainbow baby is 10 months old now and I have accepted a job to go back full time 730-5pm for 4 days and it’s a 1 hour commute each way. It’s my dream job and well paid

Life would be stressful, my husband has a flexible job so he can do the drop offs and may be some pick ups but nothing more.

I got offered another job, 20 minutes away only 2 days a week, we will need to budget and cut out all luxuries in our life and it’s not the job that I want. It doesn’t really have much opportunities.

We don’t have any family in the UK so it would just be my husband and I looking after our baby.

I feel that it’s such a good opportunity that we need to can hustle and build a good savings for the future but equally the thought of leaving our baby in nursery for long periods of time makes me feel so guilty because we can afford to look after her ourselves.

I know I can’t have it all, but I wondered if there are some good opinions around here. Thank you for reading

I would accept your dream job and ensure your DH steps up.

My children are now teens and tweens, so with my perspective:

No job has to be forever. My biggest job so far were when the children were small. I've stepped back a bit now they're older which means I can take them to various clubs which start at 5.

Also, nursery hours are much more helpful than school hours. You're talking 4 days in nursery not 5. Can DH go part time with your extra wage?

Also, I'd say a lot of parenting patterns are set in the early days. I'm thinking of one particular couple where the man was hopeless, wouldn't even put his own children to bed. Now he's left my long suffering friend for a childfree model (although she's better off without him she might have been better with a better version of him).

So all in all, I'm saying this is a good time to take the dream job!

I went with the part time job for until DC2 was at the end if primary. DH has a very busy /demanding job and I didn’t want to put more pressure in our family as not much family support either.

I wanted to be part of the kids life and I loved that time I spent with them when they were little. They are good teens and closer to me than DH. I don’t regret it.

I now have a full time job in a big corporate firm. Probably a bit late to climb up the ladder now as competing with people 20 year younger. I am trying to build that my pension.

I don’t regret my decision; you have to go with what makes you happy. I put the family first and my career second. My boss put the career first. I am not saying they are bad parents but I don’t think you have much time for the children if you both have a full demanding career.

We regret the things we don't do, not the things we do. Take the dream job.

Take the dream job. Nursery is much easier than school. Also, start with high expectations of your DH taking on responsibilities. Or it will all fall on you which will become the norm.
Also think: your career currency, pension contributions, where would you be in a few years if you became a single parent?

Agree. It doesn’t sound like the 2 days a week job will make you happy and you will regret it later on so go for the dream job and get as much help as possible so you can have quality time with your daughter and husband those 3 days

Can you not do your dream job 2 days per week?