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Have you ever suddenly hated you job (out of nowhere)

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Blackjacksandfruitsalads · 21/02/2025 13:52

I woke up this morning and realised the job I have really liked and have been really good at, for the last 5 years I suddenly can't stand. I want to leave immediately and every email is making me more and more irritated.

It's just suddenly so predictable boring and blah, and the idea of doing this one one more second makes me want to cry.

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StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 21/02/2025 13:56

I haven't had it with a job, but in other aspects of my life I've reached a point and suddenly thought, no can't do this anymore. It usually powers me into action to change my situation. Do you feel that drive?

HornyHornersPinkyWinky · 21/02/2025 13:57

Has something in the job changed? management, working processes?
Or are there other stresses in your life?

You may just be ready to move on.

I actually had this a few days ago - felt very trapped or something and felt a need to run away from my life, but I talked it out with a good friend and feel a bit better. I also realise I'm hormonal so that may be contributing to the 'fuck everything' mindset.

But if the job is really making you miserable then it's time to look for something else.

Blackjacksandfruitsalads · 21/02/2025 14:26

No real changes, new manager - who doesn't know the job and leaning on me a lot - but that is not unusual as I am the default 'Ask BJ&FS she will know/do/pick it up'

It's more that I woke up and suddenly felt hemmed in. It almost made me breathless this morning and I have been distracted and offhand all day.

I know this job inside and out. I am good at it and I get paid ok, it is flexible very close to home and the people I work with are nice. They are super chilled and I get to move my working days and times about to suit me.

It suddenly feels like I have got too comfortable and complacent and leaving would always be a step down or put me in a worse position.... so i feel trapped... because my job is so nice (WTAF)

Its a very weird set of feelings to come out of nowhere!

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Blackjacksandfruitsalads · 21/02/2025 14:27

I also very aware it make no sense AT ALL

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Blackjacksandfruitsalads · 21/02/2025 14:29

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 21/02/2025 13:56

I haven't had it with a job, but in other aspects of my life I've reached a point and suddenly thought, no can't do this anymore. It usually powers me into action to change my situation. Do you feel that drive?

I think the trapped feeling comes from the fact that I have just realised that I would be so much worse off if I wanted to make a change to my situation.

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Daffidale · 21/02/2025 15:06

For me this is usually a sign of stress and burnout. If you have a new manager leaning on you That might be creating more pressure than you are aware of. Do you just need a break? Is there anything else stressful going on in your life?

You could, though, also just be bored. I’ve certainly had projects I’ve worked on where I’ve hit a “oh god this is so boring” wall.

BG2015 · 21/02/2025 15:10

Yes! It's so alien to me too!

Teaching since 1996 and been in the same school since 2001. Cancer in 2021 and Headteacher moved me about a lot.

I'm 56 and ready to move on to something new now - part time and less stressed.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 21/02/2025 16:44

It doesn't sound weird at all. I think a pp is possibly right about the new manager being a source of pressure. When is your next holiday?

Blonzer · 21/02/2025 17:05

Yep! Referred back to some notes I'd jotted down in a very long and repetitive meeting to find it scattered with things like "I hate my job", "fuck this shit" etc

Also feel trapped because I have full autonomy, flexible hours, tiny commute, reasonable pay. Cons are no training, no support, rubbish equipment, sharing an office with someone with terrible BO and wind etc.

TellySavalashairbrush · 21/02/2025 17:14

Yes. I’m feeling like that at the moment, but feel it’s like another poster said ‘burnout’.
my line manager just got a promotion and has gone to another department, this means another new manager for me to get used to - my fifth in under two years . I’m also fed with our team manager , who does very little and has no real idea of the pressure the team are all under. I fantasise about winning a large amount of money and being able to just choose to do some volunteering work of my choice instead.

Auburngal · 21/02/2025 17:24

Yes! In May last year, had a new store manager who is bloody awful. He's a bully and took advantage of me being dyslexic. The previous store manager was very supportive and understanding with colleagues having tough times with our health, parents/family members having major illnesses etc as he has been through it himself. Can fully understand why he wanted to leave the store as it was a 70 mile commute from home. He, the last time I was able to check the staff pages, he was working at a store 10 miles from home.

The current manager, we had heard horror stories from colleagues who have friends and family, who worked with him at other stores and history repeating itself. We have a few colleagues who shop at my workplace, works/worked at his stores and slagged him off. Colleagues left the company due to him at other stores. I was the 8th one at the store, to leave in October at my store. I am excluding students as they were going to leave anyway, regardless of who was the manager.

I was glad that the previous SM was there when my DGM died, its 1 year tomorrow that she passed. The current SM has zero sympathy and doesn't care if colleagues have sick relatives. I dread to think how my friends at my last job will be treated when their relatives die.

Raised grievances about the current SM which were held back by his area manager, who think he is wonderful. Yes wonderful at upsetting staff and cause many staff to leave. I believe he is only still working for the supermarket chain due to his religion and scared that he would play the racist card if was dismissed. Could not stop crying outside work and everyone saw I looked withdrawn and not the happy smiley Auburngal.

If it was not for the current SM and his area manager, I would still be working. Not worked since mid Oct. I asked if there were roles available at the other stores nearby and wasn't anything. So bye bye.

I was thinking about ending my life. I wish I did as it would be in the media and everyone would condemn my employer.

Mememe9898 · 23/02/2025 08:28

Blackjacksandfruitsalads · 21/02/2025 14:29

I think the trapped feeling comes from the fact that I have just realised that I would be so much worse off if I wanted to make a change to my situation.

It doesn’t have to be that way as I have recently left a job that was relatively easy and I was good at it. It was super convenient as mostly work from home and was paid well above average.
Now I’m moving to a new company with more money and less flexibility but is giving me the progression that I wanted. There’s always the opportunity to change if you really want it. I didn’t think I’d get this new opportunity after over a year of on off looking for another job but it did. There’s always options if you seek it out and put the effort in.

LlamaDuke · 23/02/2025 09:06

You mention a lot of positives about the job (nice people, flexible ways of working, you're good at what you do etc), so do you think it might be that everything has become a bit too easy for you and you're actually lacking any challenge or stretch in your work?

Are there any different tasks or responsibilities you could take on that might help to spark your interest again?

If not, it might be time to look for another job - life's too short and it seems sad to stick doing something that makes you miserable.

Blackjacksandfruitsalads · 24/02/2025 11:15

Hi all,

Thank you for replying - it turns out I was unwell!

I think I was running a temperature, seemingly it was making me feel weary and grey. I became sick as a dog on Friday night.

The feeling hasn't dissipated fully - but is less overwhelming and immediate.

@Auburngal - If the feelings you mention are still present please please please reach out to your GP, service or other professional to help you

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Pherian · 25/02/2025 00:35

Take a holiday and think about a career change. I’ve changed my career 5 times over the past 26 years. Not because I haven’t been successful- but because I got to feeling the exact way you’re describing.

Blackjacksandfruitsalads · 25/02/2025 08:55

@Pherian

Can I ask how you made the jump? I have managed to get good pay by specialising and becoming a subject matter expert in my area, but the flip side of the same coin is it hems you into a 'genre' of work.

I had tentatively applied for a few jobs and have not really gotten far in the process as my skillsets don't seem to transfer, and if they do it is to more of an entry-level role and then you lose out on money. (Also I have hit my 50s and seem to have become less of an interest to potential employers)

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Pherian · 25/02/2025 14:03

My experience has been in procurement, IT and analysis.

I’ve taken professional courses to obtain certification in procurement and business analysis- at my own expense and then once I’m in a field then through employers.

Ive had to take a couple pay cuts but they weren’t massive. It took about a year for my pay to go back up. I’ve also made sure I switch employers for pay rises / benefits and opportunities. It did require some life planning and getting rid of some frills momentarily, but all in all worth it.

Blackjacksandfruitsalads · 03/03/2025 13:37

@Pherian Thank you so much for your reply.

Work is currently paying for me to gain a professional qualification and I may just take the leap after it is finished. (there is no tie in to staying/pay it back)

I was on leave part of last week and I was called a couple of times by the team because the new manager was vague or contradictory about what needed to be picked up or actioned (The manager was given a full handover but seems they said they understood, but didn't really and tried to palm it off as a 'I am sure you will figure it out' to the newbies - who, worried about the risks of getting it wrong, then called me)

I fed back this morning that it was not appropriate that she not respond fully and clearly to the team, but the manager in a serene 'but it all got sorted out in the end' kind of mindset just waved it off. I have informed her I will not be picking up next week (I am on leave again), but again serenely she just said 'oh I am sure it will all be fine' shes not a terrible person, but I have the slow creeping feeling that shes just going to let all responsibilities slide off her and everyone else will have to pick up the slack (not me mind)

I have a very long holiday coming up - 6 weeks abroad, and I will hit the ground running after that

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Middlechild3 · 03/03/2025 18:07

Pherian · 25/02/2025 00:35

Take a holiday and think about a career change. I’ve changed my career 5 times over the past 26 years. Not because I haven’t been successful- but because I got to feeling the exact way you’re describing.

Would love to hear more, were they related fields etc?

Pherian · 03/03/2025 19:22

Middlechild3 · 03/03/2025 18:07

Would love to hear more, were they related fields etc?

No, I went from insurance to housing. Methodology for procurement and Analysis can be used in any type of organisation.

ohyesido · 03/03/2025 19:37

Yes. I feel like this about my role which I've loved for years

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