3 weeks in new job and I hate it

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Just as the title says really. I was at my last place for 20 years. I changed because I was being ignored, overworked and the gossipy environment was getting me down.

I went for a job that was closer to home, with more pay, and on paper it was brilliant. But 3 weeks in and the training is either non existent or they expect you to learn everything in 1 go, they haven’t had anyone new for years so are not used to training someone new. The people seem okay but they all work from home most of the week so don’t get to interact with them.

I’m starting to dread going in every day. My partner, whilst supportive of my move has said I need to stick it out as I’m not giving it a proper chance.

Their systems are really difficult to learn as there are so many variables. It’s making me miserable! But it’s either this or poverty as there aren’t many jobs around like this.

Does anyone have any advice?

My current job was like that at the start. There was nobody to teach me it, as my managers had never done the job. Then they’d get annoyed if something was wrong. I decided to just keep going and ignore the negative comments. Then someone started who had done the job before and things improved. But after 18 months I knew the job and it is a nice job. It has made me a bit indispensable because the systems take so long to learn. It’s tricky because if you hold out it will probably be ok in the end. But you don’t want to get ill with stress in the meantime.

I remember it used to take me ages to get everything done as I’d have to use notes at every stage until I started remembering it all.

I'd have a check in with your manager and say that some dedicated training in XXX areas would be helpful. I'd also enquire if there are days when people are in more or say 'in my last job we had weekly informal catch ups on Teams, on a Tuesday morning for 30 minutes, it was great for getting to know people - do we do anything like that here?' If they did these you could get to know people more and maybe arrange a day when everyone is in to go for lunch. Sometimes you have to put yourself out there and suggest things as offices get into a bit of a rut. Also - and I know this seems weird - but if you have a Q or need to speak to someone, why not message them on Teams and say 'hey can I give you a call to ask a Q?' Most people would be glad for reduced emails and human interaction is key to wellbeing. Give it a few months, if things don't improve then start looking for other jobs,

Thanks for your posts. The current employees are disgruntled with the current system or leaving , I just really hate it here.

Make sure you take notes of anything you need learn have these ready if your manager has a catch up meeting it shows you are taking things seriously even if they don’t have a training plan, different people learn differently if they haven’t got training guides perhaps offer in your catch up to create some with the notes you have taken. Be careful to get too involved in office politics before you have been there an established time. Check the job description as you say was perfect on paper is there anything on it that you haven’t been shown yet? Change is often hard give the job six months to settle.

I would keep looking for other jobs. Will make you feel like you’re doing something about it.

As someone who felt like that 3 weeks in, and is now 3 years in. It has got better in many ways (I have become friendly with a couple of work people) but over all the culture of the place is awful - like yours people leaving, on LT sick, people in tears in 1-1s with manager , staff either not coping with their casleloads and/ or have no confidence in what they are doing. And this is hands down because of poor management, training, on boarding. I wish I had not come to work at this place. I have recently needed a meeting about how to work with a supervisor, basically because I lost my cool after not being listened to for 3 years.

I think your gut knows when it’s not the right place so I would job hunt if I were you. I spent the first few months thinking “just give it 6’months” then when it got to 6 months “just give it a year etc and I’m still here, lost sleep, lost confidence etc.

Good luck x x