Advice for working with this colleague

[TeenLifeMum]

I’ve been a manager for a number of years. Things I love about being a manager include supporting my team to develop/build their confidence/empowering them. I manage 7 people and currently all is great. They a good people, working hard and I love seeing them succeed but support them when things don’t go to plan. I have their backs.

The other half of the team is made up with 7 others and while they have different roles they work with my side of the team and need to work well together.

Now to the issue. The other manager is, in my opinion, awful. Director loves her. She talks a good talk and brags about her amazing work. She was fairly good and reliable as an officer but that doesn’t mean she can manage people. She’s not a team player and only cares about herself. On becoming a manager she said “i just love the power!”

I am pulling together a training pack for the full team but the other manager won’t discuss as her team are fine and don’t need any training. I cannot believe there’s no development needs from someone who’s been here 9 years and another 18 months then other amounts in between. She truly believes her and her team know it all. It’s all about quantity of work not quality, and keeping the status quo.

How do I manage a relationship with someone whose values differ so much from my own?

All you can do is offer her the training pack but make sure you copy in other people so that she can't say it's hers, and stamp your name all over it. It's up to her what she does with that. She sounds awful and hopefully she will be tempted by another job elsewhere soon.

Document everything. Be polite and professional.

Training pack went to her and our director - I guess I’ve learned that one. She did spread lies about me in the past but now my work is more visible so she can’t take credit for my work anymore. Her superiority and arrogance is hard to face. I want to leave but options are limited (pays well and convenient while dc still need me).

Before her I worked in such a fantastic culture, this nonsense makes me sad. I’m not good at the mind games and always feel like I’m losing.

Thank you for the sensible suggestions. I need to be less emotionally attached to work I think.

Be the person that you want to be, regardless of her. You sound generous and open, keep on being so. In the long run all will work out.

I really want to believe this but they promoted her despite complaints she’s bullied people who then quit. They always blame the victim. I hope they see through it but I can’t be sure.