Getting courage to quit

[WorkMisery]

I took a new job in a finance team 8 months ago, it was billed as a family-feel, 9 to 5 job, they wanted someone with lots of experience so the pay was good (a bit more than what I earned before). I’m effectively the second most senior simply because the team is small and my predecessors in the team had both quit just before I joined (so no handover) and my the number one in finance (cFO) is working out a long 6 month notice and not really helping at all. Also cFO is not being replaced and so by stealth I’m being promoted and eveything will be “my fault”. I am terrified,

Things started ok, but then I discovered the reason people had been quitting was things are in a mess. The cfo hasn’t been keeping an eye on things. I’ve tried to sort things out and done a fairly brilliant job until December, when I got covid and fell behind, and the workload has more than doubled due to a risky new venture that I’ve been stuck with supporting as the cFO just delegates all his work to me.

Theres no one in the wider organisation I can complain to, I have no allies as we are spread all over the Uk.

i have been blamed and shamed for some unforced errors - I can’t deny my fault. I’m just not coping and I am so stressed I feel constantly anxious and sick.

My dh earns well and says I could quit and be a sahm to my school age kids (youngest in Reception).

I feel awful leaving them in the lurch and i will work my notice - I feel so stressed I’m actually struggling to tell the cFO I absolutely hate the job and want to leave. Which sounds crazy but I’m just paralysed by how quickly it has become awful and not at all the family friendly flexible job I wanted.

I need to man up and say “I am leaving” but I cannot seem to do it.

any advice?

Take a step back, take emotion out of it. Hand in your notice with a this job is not the right fit for me at this time if you really feel you need to say something. Otherwise just keep it very brief.

Thanks I think you re right . I’ve let myself get too involved.

With all due respect and understanding, you’re in an incredibly lucky position where you can just quit your job. Millions would give anything for the same.

Do so and give yourself a break!

Could you talk through how you feel with your manager. There is nothing to lose as you may quit anyway, but if they know how you feel they may be able to sort out some of the issues

Could you look for a new/ pt job op? If you’re on such a good wage you’ll find it a HUGE change to live off your dh’s wage (but I’d agree quit!) Best of luck op x

Don’t be me OP, I’m in a terrible position of being stuck. Get out. Take some time and focus on you for a period, you may not want to be STAHM long term but at least you’ve got an option. As other s have said keep it short and factual, they won’t be surprised given what you say about the place.

Thanks. I’m on it, just need to get myself in a position

Why should you be stressed, anxious and sick due to the decisions of others. Make your family and your health your priority as things will only get worse if you stay.