Surviving notice period

[Kay225]

I handed in my notice two weeks ago - I've been with the company a long time but my contract stated a four week notice period which is what I gave. Management were angry that I had given them the minimum period and are making my remaining time there difficult. My team have been the opposite and very supportive. They've asked to take me to lunch to say goodbye and the bosses are just being difficult about it, saying we can't take any longer than a normal lunch time. Now I know this sounds petty, but I have worked for the company for over 25 years, and until I resigned felt I was a valued member of staff. I just feel gutted and although am trying to make the best of it, am really hurt. Just posting to ask how to deal with this with dignity really.

Rise above, don’t take the bait with any nasty or passive aggressive comments.

look into the middle distance and walk away with you head held high!

enjoy your lunch with your lovely colleagues or perhaps switch it to early dinner immediately post work if that’s more relaxing?

I would have gone off sick if they were making my life he'll

if you don’t have to go to another job id ask they do they want 6 weeks notice - then id be sick for six weeks!

How terrible. They've just given you the heads up that you have made the right decision. I'd head out straight from work rather than at lunch.

Thanks for the replies. I knew they'd be difficult - their behaviour is the reason I'm leaving - but I still kind of hoped for better. Anyway, I appreciate the responses, only two weeks to go!

Of course you gave the minimum notice. They'd have given you the contractual notice too! If they'd wanted you to give more they'd have given you a different contract. I wouldn't go off sick as lots of places might be able to dock your pay and only give you statutory or something. Cross off the days one by one.

25 years and this is how they treat you? That's so sad. Will there be an exit interview you can feed all of this into? A scathing review on glass door? Or just walk away with your head held high.

Thank you for the replies. I'm gutted and feeling sorry for myself but keep reminding myself 'that's why I'm leaving'. There's supposed to be an exit interview, but we'll see, I'll try to remain professional and see it through. It's a shame as I've known a lot of people there for so long, most of them are lovely, it's just the management that's toxic.

I had this in a job. I wasn't there as long as you have been. My boss was leaving and I was offered a job working for one of the partners in the firm. When I declined and handed in my notice I was shunned. The head partner walked up 2 flights of stairs to tell me off for chatting to the receptionist. There was no leaving lunch or good luck card. On my last day I just left quietly like every other day. Not one person even said goodbye. The only person who even acknowledged I was leaving was a temp working in my office who bought me a small gift. It was so hurtful.

That's awful of your managers - not surprised you are so upset. Glad your team members are lovely though.

Just keep on doing good work until the end and it will be over very soon. Think next month at this time, it will be but a memory.

Good luck!

Thanks for replying. I've arranged a get-together with people out of work which feels like I've taken back some control. It still hurts but I'll enjoy some quality time with the people that matter.