Views on blushing

[Chestnutgirl03]

What would you think if another woman at work kept blushing in your presence. What would you think the reason for this was. Would you think its because she's attracted to you and if so how would feel about it. Would it make you uncomfortable

I would assume she was nervous/anxious for some reason. I'm not sure it would make me uncomfortable but if it did, I would speak to her but be very sensitive about it and not make any judgements as to why!

No, why would I assume that?

There are many reasons people blush, from anxiety to embarrassment or feeling (in the workplace) that they're not as good at their job as others.

My sister has always been a blusher, she hates it and at 65 still hasn't 'grown out of it', like she was told she would as a child.

I would have no thoughts whatsoever. If she was of a certain age, I might assume she was having a hot flush (because that is a constant conversation at work) but I doubt I'd even notice much.

Speak to her and say what?

"Please stop blushing, it makes me feel uncomfortable"? 😳

I was a terrible blusher right through until my late twenties. It was a real problem for me. A lot of my male colleagues thought it meant I had a crush on them and I absolutely never did. I was just a bit awkward! I went to an all girl school. So I wouldn’t assume they were attracted to you. The kind thing would be to pretend not to notice.

Some people just go red!! I do, no rhyme or reason, it’s to do with having thin skin and capillaries being close to the surface. I’ve tried a lot of creams.

Please don’t bring this up to your co-worker. You would not point out someone’s acne would you!!

I would ignore it

I wouldn't think it meant anything! I used to blush when I was in my early 20s; no idea why because it wasn't from anxiety, shyness, embarrassment...anything! I'd just feel my face heat up when attention was on me. It stopped around 25 I think.

My 40 year old DH blushes when public speaking. He isn't nervous, he lectured for years and isn't worried. He just can't help it; he's very, very pale and a small blush shows easily.

It doesn't mean attraction. And I'd certainly not mention it to them! I wouldn't be arsed if someone mentioned it to me, but I know DH would because it flusters him when he realises he's doing it.

No, I certainly wouldn’t think it meant she was concealing a deep attraction for me.

I definitely wouldn’t assume this either, I’m also a blusher aswell and sometimes blush in front of people I don’t find in the least bit attractive

It doesn't mean they are attracted to you and don't talk to them about it. I've worked in various work places where my blushing has been mentioned and its really horrible and can quickly feel like bullying as for some reason people seem to enjoyed pointing it out and making me feel really awful for their own amusement.

I can't imagine I'd notice, but if I did I'd probably assume she suffered from anxiety and I'd feel sympathetic and try to put her at ease. I wouldn't say anything, and it wouldn't make me uncomfortable
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Please do not speak to the woman about her blushing. I've had to deal with that for much of my life and it's a curse. There is literally nothing she can do about it and bringing it up to her will make her feel even more self-conscious.

God, I hope everyone I've ever met doesn't think I fancy them. That's quite a bizarre assumption.

I had a friend who blushed a lot. She was so embarrassed about it, she told me she never really knew why she was blushing but she felt very self conscious about it.

I definitely wouldn't assume it's attraction.

I doubt I'd even notice. I go quite red in the face for lots of reasons, it's very common.

Some people like me have naturally very pale skin.
I find that my skin is also sensitive and many factors can cause it to redden or blush.This includes sudden temperature changes in the room, being in the sun, being in the wind, feeling a bit emotional, hormonal changes, driving alcohol or caffeine, eating a hot meal etc. if I had darker skin this would be less noticeable.
I’d be most startled if a colleague reached a conclusion that any changes in my facial skin colour meant that I was attracted them!

I had terrible problems with blushing for a long time. It was a reflection of self consciousness and anxiety not attraction.

This is what my DH is like. He's Norwegian, dark hair and dark eyes and so pale you can see his veins pretty clearly (I affectionately call him "Dracula"!). A glass of wine can sometimes set him off flushing. It's got nothing to do with mental state for him - it's just his skin type. Public speaking does it the most because of adrenaline, I think!

Hot flushes? Menopause can start in your teens, sadly.

I'm 45 now, so I'm hitting that 'golden' age for perimenopause. I've always blushed though, I'm a very 'blushy' person. Unfortunately my 8 year old son is the same, I can see it in him too, must be a family trait.
At school I used to be picked on for it, called Aunt Sally, etc.
As an adult, its definitely a social thing. Like at work if I feel incompetent or inadequate. Its definitely not an attraction thing as someone mentioned earlier, unless I'm attracted to gay men in their 60s and 18 year old females, which I'm definitely not! Everyone gets a flush, I don't discriminate! 😂 At least now though I can blame it on peri, I suppose.

It can mean anything.

Tears run from my eyes during the winter months when outdoors to the point it looks as if I'm crying which I've been mistaken before now for - no cause found.