Feeling upset about husband returning to work

[MyMellowDreamer]

We've been really lucky and my husband has been able to take a month off work after our little one was born. He goes back tomorrow and I can't stop crying. I am not worried about looking after the baby on my own but I am worried about feeling lonely/getting down, I'm worried about when he's out and about driving and I'm sad for him, I'm sad that he'll be missing her. We've been so in our little bubble as a perfect trio for a month and I'm so upset that that's over and she's growing so fast and I'm sad for him that he'll miss a big chunk of each day with her - is this normal or am I being overly sensitive?

It's both - it's completely normal that you're being over-sensitive! Logically you know that the babymoon can't last forever, as real life has to go on. But of course you will feel sad about the status quo shifting. Hopefully you can send him pictures during the day so he can bore the pants off his coworkers with them?! And in the meantime, it's good that you're recognising you might get lonely. Do you have any friends from antenatal classes? If not, it's probably time to start exploring what there is in your local area for parents and babies - hopefully plenty to keep you busy.

What you're feeling is completely normal. You've had such a special month together as a new family, and this transition is a big change. It's okay to feel sad and worried. This next chapter will bring new joys and new routines, and you'll find a new rhythm. Your husband will still stay connected and involved, even while he's at work.

Have a look at baby massage or other classes to start building some connections outside of the home.