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Stage 1 capability meeting

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Howdidigetintothismess · 13/01/2025 12:49

Hi have one of these coming up. I know I’m being managed out but wanted to know my options. I don’t really want to have a warning on my record though I can’t see it would go this far and not get a warning. Money is tight so while my husband has said we’d cope if I resigned I’m not sure how we can so have been hanging on as long as possibly . Jobs have been scarcer recently so not seen much in my line of work. I cannot think of anything else and I’m so fed up. Can’t sleep and over compensating now at work. Have tried so hard to retain business focus. Has anyone ever NOT got a warning after capability or turned it around at the next PIP. I don’t have much strength. If I can’t turn it around in 2 months what is going to change.

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Redkatagain · 15/01/2025 17:39

I am so so with you.
I'm now on the other side and I last week absolutely bent over backwards to try and keep someone- because I have been on the other end myself.

Redkatagain · 15/01/2025 17:40

You will never fix a bad boss!

RobinMcfly · 15/01/2025 18:50

ForPearlViper · 14/01/2025 17:02

Unless they were guilty of some gross misconduct, the fact that you had a colleague leave suddenly in mysterious circumstances suggests to me there are indeed settlement agreements knocking around.

I worked in a very large organisation where it wasn't that uncommon for people to disappear overnight - particularly more senior level people and, particularly, when there was a change of leadership. We used to call them 'the disappeared'. An email would go around saying said person had had a sudden impulse to pursue new horizons. I bumped into my own boss one day looking rather shell shocked. He said 'I think I've been disappeared'. Never saw him again.

The point about settlement agreements is that the fear of God is put into recipients about never, ever speaking of them.

If, as you suspect, you are being managed out, make sure all your actions are taken with a view to getting the best possible settlement. I will probably be flamed by an HR person but, frankly, I don't care. The only person you should think of in this situation is yourself.

ill admit thank goodness for facebook, ive managed to keep in touch with x collegues to see what happened in their depts etc and general friendships

DeliciousApples · 15/01/2025 19:07

I'd be asking:
If you're so bad how come you lasted two years without any issues until this new boss appeared?

Did you get proper training and guidance to do the new tasks?
Did you ask for help and they didn't give it?

Do you have any disabilities? Have those been allowed for. Including things like menopause or pregnancy.

Never resign. You won't get benefits for something like five months by making yourself unemployed.

ChubbyCheeks07 · 27/02/2026 20:45

@Redkatagain can I please pm you as I’m going through something similar to what you did an d would be grateful to get some input? Thank you.

Happyher · 27/02/2026 21:04

If you’re not in a trader union have you tried speaking to ACAS. I consulted them recently about my son and they gave me some really good advice

ChubbyCheeks07 · 27/02/2026 21:27

If I decide to resign after failing my pip and the next stage is formal capability and management, will that go on my reference I I resign before signing to go on the capability management?

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