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Is there anything I can do about boss' annoying email habit?

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NoctuaAthene · 09/01/2025 12:32

Name changed for this just in case. I've worked with a new boss for about 18 months now and his email etiquette is incredibly irritating.

On the whole he's a great boss, nice guy, our 'clients' (we're a corporate service so internal users) love him, he's very charming and a good presentor etc. But this one thing is getting right on my tits. Basically he likes to 'clear off' easy or trivial email responses pretty much instantly whereas I'm more of a work on my inbox a couple of times a day person. For clarity I always reply with at the very least a holding response within 24 hours, which is viewed as unusually responsive within our organisation (public sector in case you can't guess😏) where it's pretty common for people to take days to reply to even a quick query and to totally ignore or have to be chased for anything harder. Fine as it goes, people have different ways of working etc etc, it does slightly give me anxiety about emailing him when I know he'll feel the need to fire replies back at me instantly even if I clearly mark it not urgent. But the major issue is we're a pretty heavy inbox service, we get a lot of emails every day and this habit really disrupts his ability to ever focus on everything else because emails are coming in nearly all the time. The thing is it's rubbing off on the whole rest of the team who he expects to work in the same way, and our longer term/more complicated or proactive pieces of work have suffered since he started as he's constantly interrupting people to deal with the more day to day or easy queries.

For instance yesterday I was deep in writing a quite complicated document when I see he's forwarded me an email from a client within 5 mins of him receiving it, a simple query to answer (he doesn't have quite the same technical knowledge as me so relies on me for these things) - I would probably have replied same day but after I'd finished with the document, would have happily replied to the client myself or drafted something for him. But no, within 10 mins of sending me the email he's ringing me wanting to discuss a response and draft it together to 'clear it off'. When I say I'm working on something else and can it wait, he agrees it's not urgent but still wants to 'quickly' agree what we're going to say and effectively draft it together, which by the time we've done that has taken 15 minutes and I've totally lost my flow with my other document. This can easily happen 5 times in a day and that's just me, he does the same with my team too 😡. I honestly think he spends the majority of his day in this 'clearing off' process and that's why he doesn't get anything else done. Half of this stuff doesn't even need his input if he would just delegate and count that as cleared off but until he actually sees the email response it seems not!

I've tried pointing out that the longer term/proactive work will make much more of a difference to our clients than receiving emails instantly compared to in a few hours (and read between the lines, therefore to his reputation and career prospects) and he agrees in theory but then says because he uses the weekends to work on the more in depth stuff it's fine to be more reactive in the weekdays. The problem with that is (a) it's fine for him to work weekends if he wants, he's highly paid and senior enough that's fair, but I and particularly my team are not! (b) The work he does at weekends is very rarely producing things himself, it's reviewing documents or analysis or whatever produced by the team, due to point a we can only do the work in the week and if he keeps filling everyone's time with other stuff it won't happen and (c) in reality he barely works at the weekend, maybe a couple of hours max but not enough to compensate for him filling hours with crafting basic emails together Mon-Fri... GRR! The thing is the easy emails are easy and it gives him a sense of accomplishment to have a clear inbox and lots of superficially happy clients because he's so responsive (but not really happy because their actual work is not getting done), whereas the hard work is hard and easier to avoid.

TLDR is my boss the way he is and I just have to accept it or has anyone had success in getting a boss to change their ways?

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BellissimoGecko · 09/01/2025 12:42

Tell him again.

Email him when you want some uninterrupted time and put your phone on silent, so he can't contact you in that time?

peppermintgreengrass · 09/01/2025 12:45

Do you think he’d be receptive to you talking him through the Eisenhower matrix? This can be a really good way to show someone that they’re wasting too much time on low hanging fruit.

In the short term I think you need to set stronger boundaries with him and allow your team to do the same.

peppermintgreengrass · 09/01/2025 12:45

PS sorry I don’t have time to post a proper explainer but if you Google you will find loads about it.

HPandthelastwish · 09/01/2025 12:46

You need to discuss the teams Ways of Working

Maybe person A is available for quick response emails Monday am, and B in the pm or whatever and get a schedule in place to allow focus time

Liveafr · 09/01/2025 12:50

Can you ask him to have regular scheduled 1:1 sessions where you review/ discuss with him what needs reviewing/discussing, and schedule "deep work" sessions where you really focus. Mark those "deep work" slots in your calendar and ask to not be disturbed (unless it's an emergency). During that time, mute your emails. Gently explain to your boss that you are more productive that way.

YYURYYUCICYYUR4ME · 09/01/2025 12:51

I could be wrong, but I had a very similar manager - took a while but they were not up to the job, indecisive, incapable of a great deal that they should have been doing and slid far too much of their work onto us. In the end we complained to a senior manager, collectively as a team. It turned out they had an idea of his lack of ability but had not addressed the issue due to their inadequacies and, as we'd not complained previously, allowed him to continue. He left soon after, but it took two years and he got well paid for doing very little in that time!

EmmaMaria · 09/01/2025 13:34

You said he rings you - so are you in different offices or working from home? And LA so I assume on Teams? Switch to Do Not Discturb mode, don't pick up the phone.

NoctuaAthene · 09/01/2025 14:30

Thanks for all the replies. I probably should have said that I'm reluctant to turn phone off/use do not disturb because we do sometimes have 'emergencies' (I use inverted commas because while these aren't life or death things but certainly quite serious legal/financial implications for the organisation if not dealt with quickly) and I would hate for him or others to not be able to get hold of me in those situations - but I could try a system with him where I won't answer unless I'm either free to listen to him chunter on about non important matters or he's sent some kind of indication (text or whatever) that it's an emergency. And tell the team to just have protected time and turn their phones off, they wouldn't be dealing with emergencies anyway. I don't really trust him to not abuse that though, he's got himself into in a flappy panic and declared an 'emergency' before about things which very much aren't that important at all. I think whoever said the root cause is a lack of capacity in him are spot on, this job is a step up for him career wise and I'm not sure he's very confident yet - this is public sector so I doubt he'd get sacked and I'm not sure I'm at the stage where I want to shop him to senior managers, but I'm sure they are noticing the substantial downturn in productivity since he started, although weirdly their feedback has been all positive and how happy clients are so who knows, maybe I'm in the wrong here?

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TankFlyBoss · 09/01/2025 14:56

He sounds quite anxious

ElangaScores · 09/01/2025 15:00

I just put Busy on my Team status if I didn’t want to be interrupted. If my green light is on I’m happy to be interrupted.
Do you use Teams?

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 09/01/2025 15:05

I just turn Teams and Outlook off for a bit. I work with so many people who are oblivious to red or DND

Doggymummar · 09/01/2025 15:11

I schedule two hours focus time morning and afternoon 9-11 and 3-5 lunch is 1.30 other than that anyone can contact me for meetings or chats help etc. if they try to ring me in those times I don't answer. Otherwise I would be working weekends like your boss to, sod that.

JillMW · 14/01/2025 18:25

Going against the general mood here, at risk of being told I am wrong.🙂
This is your manager, he is likely being managed by someone else and also managing others.
Your points are generally well balanced but there are a couple of things that, to me as an outsider, could be perceived as you being annoying or patronising. Clearly things are not working for you but this is your manager and different team members will have different perspectives.
I would use your work place mentor. They will listen to your points and encourage you to formulate an action plan. If you don’t have one it would be useful to access an external coach mentor. Most large employers have a process in place.
If you feel you do need a confrontation go in gently. An option I would use would be something simple, check with your manager is it acceptable for you to read emails and answer your phone for eg three times a day, start of day, mid day, close. Allow time to respond in these periods. It might be just one window depending what works best for you and the manager. You then set your email auto reply and phone answer machine to explain the times you will respond and ignore messages in between

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