Moving on from a job you left

[unconditionalpurelove]

I'm just wanting some thoughts please on the following.
Nearly a year a go I left a job due to a breakdown basically. On my last day I received no card, no gift, not even a fond farewell.
When I resigned however my boss did look sad and said I was welcome to come back and volunteer(Education role) if I wanted and that there was no ill feeling.

The weeks up until I left my boss and management did come and check on me to see if I was ok, seemed caring etc asking things like am I definitely leaving. I kind of had no choice really by that point as I'd become so burnt out and unwell.

I had been a bit flaky towards the end but that was because of being unwell. Prior to that I was a valuable member of staff and they even said so.

I guess what I'm asking is why do you think there was no send off for me/card etc?

Was it because they didn't want me to leave? I sense that is the case but then I was also upset that they didn't say bye or give me a card. It was all a bit last minute I suppose as some of my notice was in school holiday.

I didn't really want a big fuss or a present really but a card and a bye would have been nice.

I know nobody here can really say but just wondering what people think. I guess I'm just trying to process it all and another recent thread on a similar topic got me thinking.

Thanks

Honestly, I suspect that it was a bit of collective rubbishness.

It's not a reflection on you, but on the people/environment that you left. Maybe they are close to burnout themselves, maybe everyone thought someone else was doing it, maybe they are a bit rubbish generally.

Please don't use it as a barometer for your self-worth.

Also, in my experience when someone is ill, most people don't know what to say, and end up saying nothing for the fear of saying the wrong thing or being considered intrusive for saying anything. That goes double for anything related to mental health.

How are you feeling now? Have you been able to engage in any regular hobbies or activities?

I suspect it’s just that it wasn’t organised by anyone. These things always require someone to organise and it usually won’t be management. If no one steps up in time (was your departure date known in advance by everyone? - you’d probably need 10 working days to organise) then it just won’t happen. It’s no reflection on you.

Additionally, these kinds of things just aren’t as fashionable as they used to be - people move jobs a lot more regularly nowadays which means fewer collections etc.

Thank you. I'm suspecting it probably was a case of not knowing what to say. I am better thanks and have taken up hobbies that have helped me to recover.