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Not sure if I've made the right decision - sorry long post

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Snetvie · 25/12/2024 00:52

Merry Christmas everyone 🎁 I've worked in my current company in customer services for 20+ years and up until a few years ago it was great but then we were merged and since then things have gone downhill and the job is totally different. We no longer have any use for our varied skill set as we've basically become a contact centre taking messages for back office teams and filling in online forms on the customers behalf. Over the last year I've been feeling increasingly anxious to the point where I e had to take sick leave due to the pressures, the many changes, changing goalposts and lack of training. I raised it with my supervisor, her manage and head of department but nothing has changed and mine (and colleagues) concerns and struggles have been dismissed. Due to this I decided to apply for a job in one of our more specialized teams and was delighted when I got it however, after a very long and drawn out transfer process I'm even more anxious and stressed to the point of having panic attacks. The new department is very intense and legislation heavy which I had underestimated when applying, resources are incredibly stretched and I've really struggled to understand what exactly I should be doing and when which is made worse by the fact that I have to send out legal letters and abide by governmental laws throughout. I'm out of my depth. I'm also working more hours than I'd have liked, only having been told my hours at the last minute and I'm not comfortable leaving my 12 year old daughter for a period of time after school due to finishing later. I've been off sick again and am now on anti-depressants for the anxiety. I made the decision to hand in my notice as I just can't see a way past how I am feeling and feel as though it's the company I'm disillusioned by rather than the jobs. I've accepted a job at another company, it's less hours per week, the pay is lower and there are less benefits, it is in a different sector so I will learn new skills and there is the potential for personal and professional development and I'll be home when my daughter finishes school. The company is smaller and seems to care about and value it's employees. I'm worried that I've made the wrong choice and that I should have given my new position at the old company more time. I'm concerned that the anxiety was just due to getting used to a new team, new location, new job role etc and that I've cut off my nose to spite my face. I'm in so much turmoil right now over whether I've given up too soon or if I do really need a change. Do others think that I've made the choice or has anyone else been in this position before?

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Silvertulips · 25/12/2024 00:56

Sounds like you need the change. Less stress and a reset.

Honestly you will get more chances in the future it sounds like you need a break.

WeeWigglet · 25/12/2024 01:05

I think it's completely normal to feel nervous in anticipation of such a big change, but it honestly sounds like you needed to leave the old place as it was understaffed & you were insufficiently trained.

Take a deep breath & go with an open mind to the new place. Even if it's a temporary change while you look for something better paid, it sounds like it's a better environment and gives you the ability to prioritise your DD.

Resilienceisimportant · 25/12/2024 01:11

Yes. You have made a brave decision that sounds well thought through and right for you. Well done and all the best in your next role!

Snetvie · 25/12/2024 01:21

Thank you for responding. I'm absolutely bricking it about leaving. I don't know if its peri-menopause that has caused the anxiety or my body telling me that I need to move on but I've developed psoriasis and had sleeping issues from the stress of it all. I'm just so sad to leave as it used to be such a satisfying job and a great place to work.

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Stumpy54321 · 25/12/2024 19:46

I was in a similar position as you. Used to really like my job, part time great boss. Then Covid hit and as with many companies staffing levels dropped was expected to do 2 people’s jobs and working more and more alone never got back to where we were before Covid. After 25 years I decided I would leave by the end of the year. My last day was last Friday and although I knew I was doing the right thing I had a few wobbles wondering if I was making a mistake. But then on my last day only a handful of people wished me good luck and thanked me for all the help I’d given them. Management didn’t even bother to say good bye. Onwards and upward although I don’t have a job to go to I’m almost at retirement age so wouldn’t be the end of world if I didn’t get another one, but I have an interview on Friday

GreyAreas · 25/12/2024 20:04

Great decision, I can't see any downsides. Now just mentally prepare for a great start.

Stumpy54321 · 02/01/2025 23:06

GreyAreas · 25/12/2024 20:04

Great decision, I can't see any downsides. Now just mentally prepare for a great start.

I got the job and start on Monday. Onwards and upwards. New year new start 😃 although I’m a little nervous I must admit having had the same job for so long that I was good at and could almost do blindfolded feels scary but exciting to start again.

GreyAreas · 03/01/2025 11:42

So exciting :) give yourself lots of leeway and time to settle in, no one will expect you to know anything and it takes time for anyone to feel comfortable and confident. Hope the new routine works better for you and how amazing to leave all that stress behind you, that's priceless.

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