dh told to get his act together because hes been signed off work due to grieving

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dh lost his mum 3 weeks ago.the gp signed him off work as hes having panic attacks,unable to concentrate.hes a bus driver so obviously he is not able to do his job safetly at the moment according to the gp.his employer rang yesterday she told him he had to sort himself out and get his act together.he kind of stuttered im trying,ive lost my mum and people cope in different ways etc.i wanted to phone back and ask her what she ment by getting his act together.so !hes angry and upset and worried about when he does go back to work.

Get the union on to it. He needs someone to state his case; it stands to reason he is not in a position to do so himself.

I went without saying but sorry about your MIL of course.

lol-thankyou.
he isnt in a union

get him to join one

If there is a union at his work place, he may be able to join up now. When I was a union rep, I took the attitude that it's never too late to see the light.

If there is no union at his work, he could approach one directly, to get advice on his legal rights.

If he is anti-union on priciple, then he's on his own sadly.

What about contacting ACAS This is not on at all.

Have to agree with choccypig, if it is a unionised workplace he should definitely see about joining if he can.

Otherwise in terms of what he should do, I'd say at the moment just make a note of anything similar that she says during the time he is off sick, go back when he is ready and when the GP says he is ready, not before, and if he feels harassed either during this time or when he gets back, consider putting in a grievance.

id be tempted to phone her up and give her what for, although i suspectyour dh wouldnt like that?

sorry for your loss cs

also make sure hes not pressurised to go back before he'd ready.

fbb advice of consider a grievence if these goes on or gts worse

shes propbably just mad as he has a sick note therefor theres not much she can really do.

sorry about your MIL.

Keep a detailed diary of anything that happens, including how your husbands health is. If you ever need to give details and dates it wont be difficult to remember if you keep the information.

My DH was 'made redundant' from his job a month after our son was killed. His boss said that 'he had to stop crying when he was in the warehouse!!!!!!'

Glad to report about a year later the company went bust

oh yes and I would definitly ring the woman to explain the situation. BUT try to keep calm - make her feel as guilty as possible.

shabster- at your dh!omg!

apparently there is no union so i will show him everything else posted from you very helpful people!

milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk-i was very tempted!she'd phoned earlier when he was out with his brother(sorting through mil posessions so not sitting in pub etc!)luckily she didnt use that line on me else id have had to say something and then inform dh on his return that he no longer had a job!and i was all for ringing her back after she spoke to him but wasnt allowed!