Coworker mad at me for keeping a selfie on my mobile of us together

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My coworker is leaving her job soon so we decided to have a muck about and take a couple of selfies of us both on my phone. One photo didn't turn out very well and she hated it. I told her I'd delete it if she felt better about it, but really I retrieved it and kept it on my phone. However, I was showing her other photos on my phone and the picture she hated came next. She nearly killed me and accused me of lying, saying I told her I'd deleted etc and I said I forgot to delete properly and is caller me a liar. Now she's all moody with me. Surely I can have whatever I want on my own phone?
I texted her I was sorry if I've hurt her feelings and that it wasn't my intention, but she hasn't replied.

You can’t be angry she called you liar because you are a liar.

I've already apologised. I told her if she wants to fall out over this then I'll respect her decision. But I can't say sorry anymore. I'm maxed out with it all.

You lied about something, it's a bigger issue to your friend than it would be to you, you think she's overreacting and don't want to apologise again. You've already said if she wants to fall out over this you respect that.

So what are you hoping to get from this, if you're not looking for suggestions on how to resolve the issue?
If you're hoping to be told that you're totally in the right/your friend is in the wrong it suggests that you're not completely confident that this is actually the case.

I just wanted to thank everyone for their replies. I went to work Thursday morning and she got me a keyring with the word 'friend' on it and a voucher from her for Christmas. She also said this 'selfie issue' is now water under the bridge. Just to let you know of the update. Thanks again, everyone 😘

Surely I can have whatever I want on my own phone?

No, of course you can’t. If not paedos would walk more free than they do alrwady

You both sound like idiot teenagers.

Well you are a liar 🤷‍♀️

Have you deleted it?

If someone kept a photo of me that I’d specifically said I didn’t like and perhaps didn’t like how I looked in it, I’d assume they get some sort of kick out of seeing themselves looking good when I look like crap. You need to apologise and get rid.

My sister did this when I first had my braces installed. I didn’t like the way I looked and she took a few photos of us, one I absolutely hated. I asked her to delete it to which she replied “fine, bloody hell I didn’t know you were this vain!” Fast forward a few days later and she’s showing our mum the photos. Lo and behold there’s the photo I hate, asked her why she kept it she said well I look okay so why should you be worried? Felt humiliated and wondered who else she’d shown them to.

You said you’d delete it OP so why have you kept it? Pretty shitty move IMO.

She asked you to delete the photo.
You promised you would delete the photo.

Can you really not understsnd why she is angry?

If youre scrolling through photos showing her then who else are you scrolling through showing them to. I’d be pissed off too.

The poster was trying to say grow up OP…

Just FYI, saying ‘I’m sorry if I’ve hurt your feelings’ is NOT an apology.

You sound quite mean if you actively retrieved the photo when you told her you’d deleted it. Why would you do that?

I'm glad you are back on good terms with your colleague.

Someone took a group photo including me at a church event. I stood at one end of the group in the hopes of being cut out. Instead she used a pano, or fish eye lens, or something weird as I came out of it looking about 5 feet across. It was most strange. It next showed up on the church website, and then (horror) in the local paper.

The only way I could cope was by deciding that no one would recognize me as I looked like a medical oddity and that is not how I look normally.

My point being that she was right to be annoyed as bad photos have a tendency to show up where you least want them to.

Quite and the OP isn’t telling us why she did it, despite being asked multiple times.