Private Manager

[Car1y]

Ok so....My manager is friendly, professional, asks how im doing and supportive.She asks how my husband is and my views on world matters etc....Whenever we ask her about her weekend, she always says "just chilled out" but weve seen on her social media (secretly) that she does go out and she does do stuff. So why cant she just say?
We always talk about our families and kids and she never says anything? Is she straight, gay,has kids or a cat lady? Why are some senior managers so private?

I am like your manager, I don't share my personal life with my colleagues.

You sound nosey...

I have been a team leader before but not a manager.

Oh you know what I mean

Well yeah. Probably if she is, she doesn't want to be sexually harassed by men or have everyone gossiping about her

Sadly not

Because it gets used against you.

As a manager one of the hardest lessons I had to learn is that you need to friendly with the people you mange but not friends with them. At some point the lines will be blurred, someone will feel slighted or entitled to special treatment because of the freeing ship and maintaining the boundary is very difficult because everyones perception of what is right behaviour between friends is different.

Rude.

Male managers are always pretty open in my experience.

Always pretty open....You know managers have different personality traits don't you?

OP, I've said it before- you sound immature and naive.

You're saying that male managers are better (probably because they don't have to fear sexual harassment or being judged harshly for possibly being a lesbian or a 'cat lady'), you might be scared that the boss is a lesbian and gossiping behind her back about it. And you still don't get why this woman is trying to keep her private life to herself? It's comical that people can have such little self awareness.

Male managers can be open because there is less RISK for them - being a woman in a 'male role' always means that you get more flak and they don't deal with sexual harassment to the same extent.

You're out of line here OP.

You're stalking your manager on social media, speculating about their private life and sexuality.

Start treating your manager with respect.

I think you find it an issue because she asks you questions about your personal life.
I've known a couple of people like this and it is odd imo. They are happy to ask and want to know the ins and outs but don't want to share anything about themselves.

Fair enough if they didn't ask about other people but they do, they dont owe anyone any private or personal information but if that's their stance they shouldn't seek that information from others. I'd go quiet on her questions, just say you had a chilled one too.

if you feel like they’re getting info out of you and not giving anything back then simply give them the same response. The weekend was ‘nice’ or ‘chilled’ or whatever. No extra info needed x