Help husband with MH and his job

[Pinklady81]

Hello everyone

I'm wanting some advice , husband is a manager for a company and has been in charge for last year, his other colleague left last year and wasn't the best and left company in a financial mess unbeknown to anyone else. The main boss has now got back in control and thanked my husband for all he has done and financially it is now making a very small profit . Husband is now the only person and has no one to turn to , his MH is terrible , he said if he could cry he physically would but he can't and he cannot switch off as the responsibility he feels is huge and he feels too proud to say he is massively struggling to the powers above. What can I suggest as I have said to talk but he won't says he will carry on but every weekend it's the same, stuck in a rut of going through work problems and seeing him so down. It's awful and I don't know what to do I'm so worried that this could result in something more serious . Please be kind with advice as saying get another job at the minute isn't a quick solution.

Does he have people below him who are any good that he can delegate some of the work too? And involve on some of the decision making? If not, can he tell senior management that it is time to hire someone additional? I agree with you, though, he needs an honest conversation with his boss about the fact that while he pulled out all the stops to fix things up, the workload and responsibilities need to be shared.

But to be honest he may need some therapy to help him switch off when he's not at work too. Unless he owns the business he shouldn't be that emotionally invested. My husband has suffered with anxiety and the spiral is "but if I do X wrong, I will lose my job, then we won't be able to pay the mortgage or give the kids what they need, then we'll lose the house and the kids will have a awful childhood, then we'll be cold and destitute in our old age and the kids' lives will be ruined". Whereas the reality is that even if he lost his job, he would get another one, I earn enough to pay the mortgage, we wouldn't be destitute, etc. But when you are in a place of anxiety, you can't see that.

@SummerInSun he doesn't have anyone now besides himself other than the team he runs and he is micro managing them as they don't seem the best! He's got chest pains, not sleeping, has no motivation to do anything and it's so hard