I am finally out of a toxic job

[december2020]

I spent the last 2-ish years in a really toxic role. To the point it gave me severe physical symptoms.

I work hard, am ambitious and work 40-50 hours a week and generally have a very good reputation in the industry . However, I just couldn't make it work with the current role and it has made me question my self worth.

But today (after applying and interviewing) I finally accepted a new role within the wider company with a team I have worked with before. The role lets me work to my strengths and really elevate my work, team and self. And I get a good pay rise.

I don't know what I'm looking for as an outcome to this post but I am just so so so relieved. Life has been hell thanks to my current role and it's finally moving forward in the right direction.
I don't really get to speak about this in real life so posting here.

I just cannot be more grateful that I finally got out of something that was causing me such a strong stress and burnout reaction and into something suited for me with a team who already have worked with me and know my capabilities.

Congratulations! Onwards for you and don’t waste time looking back. Fuck em!

well done you! Congratulations. A perfect start to the Xmas season.

Thank you!
It still hasn't quite sunk in and I haven't told many people in real life.

But my god I am so happy! I finally feel like I can be human again and get excited for work! And I get to work European only hours so get time with my kids again.

Congratulations I left my toxic job also today with a job I'm very passionate about to start in the new year, wishing you the best of luck x

Well done! Sounds like you have really turned things round. And faster than I managed to get out of my past toxic job, where I stayed far too long, so good for you!

Congratulations!
I'm hoping to be in a position to post something similar too.

You must feel amazing!

Hooray, I've been going through similar. Well done.

Congrats 👏

I just wanted to update this incase anyone else is going through.a similar situation in a toxic job.

I'm about 3 months in my role within the wider company and what a difference it has made. I love going into the office, I love my immediate team and my wider team, I adore my new line manager. They recognise my value and appreciate my input and work but equally I'm actually growing and learning in my role (in a positive way).

The toxic role really made me question and doubt myself (and the first time in my career) and it almost feels like I am validated and that I wasn't crazy.

So I just want to reassure anyone in a toxic work situation, it's not you, don't stay in a place that is negatively affecting your health, find a new role that appreciates you. The work into finding the role and securing it will be such a weight off your chest and you'll feel like you're progressing and soaring again. Please don't settle. Settling would have tanked my entire career.

Very soppy I know but hopefully it will help someone going through something similar.

Thank you OP-your update has come at just the right time for me, I’m questioning myself almost daily and whether im good enough.

I am so happy this found you @Figroll16
i genuinely started thinking this was a ”me problem” where no matter what I did was not enough or recognised. In reality, it was a poor set up and no wider awareness from my old line manager.
I am still within the wider company and the shift has been monumental- I almost can’t believe I put up with the BS for so long!

Oh I love to see this, congrats OP! I’m going through the same, being managed out and made to feel like it’s a “me” problem. Seriously draining and soul destroying.

I know it’s so much easier said than done @OneMoreLifeCrisisbut please don’t stay and settle
and let it unfold without your say.
It was a situation for me where no matter what the outcome would have been it would not have been a good one for me, so I wanted to course correct fast before it was too late.
it’s so draining and soul destroying to be in a job you dread going to.
After I handed in my notice, me and my line manager didn’t speak for the last 8-9 weeks of my notice period.
Before that, we spoke maybe 10mins a week.
It has given me such an appreciation for my new line manager who is just amazing in every way. Supportive, fun, teaches me things, an ambitious go getter and just good human. Nothing ever feels too silly and he always makes the time.
It has made all the difference and I’ve found joy in work again.

Congratulations! You won't look back. This was me last year and I'm 3 months into my new job and loving it. It made me realise how bad my last place was and how people there just accepted certain behaviour and became accustomed to it. Its only now I'm realising how much it was effecting me. My friends & family say I'm like a different person now... back to my old self. I was being bullied by my manager, it was awful. I generally think my self pretty resilient but after 2.5 years there I don't think I could have taken much more. My new job came at the right time. So I understand your joy!!