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My line manager hates me

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Galletaconpeineta · 19/11/2024 21:23

I started a job a few months ago. My line manager has always been a moody person, one day would be on the best mood and the next would be on the worst.
senior management noticed something was bothering me and I had a meeting with them where I was able to explained what was happening and they said they would talk to said manager about it.
fast forward to now ( a few months later) and said manager hates me now. They cannot even hide it anymore. Always negative about everything I do, not nice attitude when I approach them with questions and not supportive unless I ask specifically for support and help. Treats me completely different than the rest of my team.
I’ve tried to fix this, I’ve been nice and friendly. I’ve tried to fix the relationship but they are not interested. I’ve requested help from senior management again but not sure on what can be done. The said manager is not rude or disrespectful but the relationship is broken and not sure what my options would be.
I work in a big organization but in a small team and moving teams would be impossible right now.
No idea how I can prove what is happening or what I can do to fix this. I really cannot take this anymore, I feel very close to snapping back at them and getting into trouble because of it. Any suggestions please?

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Whoknowshere · 24/11/2024 10:16

Really change job. Been there, suffered for years, tried everything I could, nothing changed. they are bullies and they also show everybody in the team that if they complain they will be treated the same. I am sure if you speak with other people in the team they also feel uneasy and not happy but they are probably afraid to say as for now you are the bully victim and they don’t want to become one. Senior mgmt should be better but sometimes they are not able, can’t be bothered to act. Really look for another job. If not in your firm somewhere else.

Motnight · 24/11/2024 10:21

Whoknowshere · 24/11/2024 10:16

Really change job. Been there, suffered for years, tried everything I could, nothing changed. they are bullies and they also show everybody in the team that if they complain they will be treated the same. I am sure if you speak with other people in the team they also feel uneasy and not happy but they are probably afraid to say as for now you are the bully victim and they don’t want to become one. Senior mgmt should be better but sometimes they are not able, can’t be bothered to act. Really look for another job. If not in your firm somewhere else.

Unfortunately @Whoknowshere is right. Good luck Op.

Chocolatebunny61 · 24/11/2024 12:08

I was bullied out of my job by a manager just like this. It was in education and a place where if your face doesn’t fit you are out. She completely destroyed my confidence and self esteem and I haven’t worked since - Covid and cancer have contributed to this and I’m 63 so there’s no chance now. Look for another job before your manager does that to you. Good luck.

Bachboo · 24/11/2024 15:48

I’m going to go against the grain here but I would log everything and speak to the senior manager again. Don’t let her bully you out

user1471538283 · 25/11/2024 18:07

I've had experience of surviving a bullying manager and I should have left instead of fighting it. I'm now with a micromanaging manager who picks up on things that are not even really things and goes against our mission statement so I'm actively looking to move. Sometimes the fight just isn't worth it

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