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Do I say something?

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birdankles · 10/11/2024 16:36

I'm torn whether to say something or not about an incident at a work event a couple of weeks back.
I am part of a team who organized a large event for international delegates that was a great success. At the end of the event, the manager decided to publicly acknowledge the contributions to the planning to only a couple of the team members, thanking them with gifts and generating applause.
These team members had done the lions share of the planning so they do deserve some recognition. I think what I am having trouble with is the other team members who didn't get a mention.
I am one of those team members and I have seen this kind of behavior in other teams and it has eroded trust and commitment.
I would like to say something but am worried about rocking the boat for myself and other team members (I am relatively new to the business compared to others) but I moved to this organisation to escape a toxic work environment in my last job.
Good people of mumsnet, what would you advise?

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Pinkissmart · 10/11/2024 16:37

I think the ship has sailed, but the next time the team got together I would have congratulated the whole team on the effort

Womblingmerrily · 10/11/2024 16:47

When you're in charge, remember this and do it differently.

Otherwise, leave it alone.

daisychain01 · 10/11/2024 20:06

At the end of the event, the manager decided to publicly acknowledge the contributions to the planning to only a couple of the team members, thanking them with gifts and generating applause.

I don't think it's too late to mention something to the manager, in fact you'd be able to rationalise the time gap as being time when you needed to think about the implications on the rest of the team's morale due to them being excluded from the recognition. You want to highlight it because it wa so unfair, when you and the team had contributed to the event, and perhaps they were unaware of your efforts, so you wanted to make sure they knew.

what you don't want is for your work to be excluded from any end of year review ratings,

Catsonskis · 10/11/2024 20:11

I think it depends, did they do the lion share of the work because they chose to/went about and beyond or because their jobs meant that they just naturally did more of the work load?

I think it’s a tough one, not hard to say a generic thanks to all who helped, but would that really have made you feel any better?

RechargeableGnu · 10/11/2024 21:10

Did those who'd done the lion's share thank you?

If so I'd leave it.

Futurethinking2026 · 10/11/2024 21:14

This happens at every event, if you go beyond the team that do the lions share, where do you stop? These events take an army and you can’t thank every individual who played a part.

liverpudcounsel · 10/11/2024 21:19

Those who took the lions share deserve recognition. To say something would be embarrassing imo.

Jammylou · 10/11/2024 22:11

It is important to recognise those that go above and beyond. It's a way of motivating and recognising effort.
What would have been wrong would be to exclude those making an equal contribution.

birdankles · 11/11/2024 08:29

Catsonskis · 10/11/2024 20:11

I think it depends, did they do the lion share of the work because they chose to/went about and beyond or because their jobs meant that they just naturally did more of the work load?

I think it’s a tough one, not hard to say a generic thanks to all who helped, but would that really have made you feel any better?

They did the lions share because it was their work load. I would have appreciated the generic thanks, and I think it would have been fair for everyone to have been mentioned. We're not a big team.

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birdankles · 11/11/2024 08:29

Futurethinking2026 · 10/11/2024 21:14

This happens at every event, if you go beyond the team that do the lions share, where do you stop? These events take an army and you can’t thank every individual who played a part.

An army of 8.

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birdankles · 11/11/2024 08:32

Thank you everyone for your replies. I have taken in your thoughts and advice, have slept on it (as well as writing down every thought I had about) and have decided to let it go. There are more senior figures than me in the team who can raise it if necessary.

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