I reached burnout at work, combination of working ridiculous hours, covering 2 roles and unnecessary conflict. I was on holiday for a few days and had to call in sick after due to having what felt like a breakdown.
I am a newish manager and my replacement has now been here 3 months. They are doing a great job in someways but seem unable to cope with the volume and rapidness of the work flow (it is tough but manageable). Hence me doing a lot of her work. Hard deadlines. She was also off sick for 2.5 weeks. She actually applied for the job I got & often oversteps so think she feels she could have done it.
On day 2 of my absence (I am only on day 4 and plan to go back this week) she text me - wishing me well, looking forward to me being back etc. I guess a lovely text. She said she was texting as a friend, but she is not my friend.
However due to massive boundaries being crossed in a previous role when I gave out my mobile I asked for it not to be used out of hours, at weekends or when I am off.
She has previously text me on a weekend (had not yet brought that up with her as had meeting planned with her the day I went off sick).
Why is it this has set me back so badly, I feel she has overstepped massively. I feel my safe space has been invaded. I cannot stop going over & over what on earth she was thinking.
Can anyone help me make sense of this & how I work with her when I feel so resentful?